Dealing with a Health Challenge You Cannot Control
Dealing with an illness, we can use it to grow and explore what I call the Wisdom of the Body. Taking advantage of that growth opportunity is what I call a healthy way to be sick. The importance of this chapter is to develop the perspective that will serve you in reading this book.
The Amazing Gift of Discouraging Thoughts
When we experience a discouraging situation, it can unplug us from living consciously in the moment and make us feel like a victim. Learn how negative thinking can be a springboard to inner wisdom.
Our Real Life as Seen by Inner Wisdom
If we view life from the Wisdom of our Body’s perspective and let go of the ego, we can experience the real, essential conscious power that heals us and keeps us alive. If we only read this book and understand it intellectually, you will miss the main point. This book develops the skills that help you to read from the perspective of inner wisdom.
Ego’s Fear of Silence: Your Biggest Challenge
Silence is so much more than nothing. It is the part of you that listens to your thoughts . . . your consciousness. In silence, are powerful inner resources to help you heal. When you avoid silence, which cannot be understood intellectually, you ignore powerful inner resources that help you in healing.
What Is an Attachment?
An attachment is a creation of your mind into which you have invested consciousness. What you identify with and where you place your consciousness is what most people mean when they say, “This is my life.” We need to be conscious of inner wisdom. Learning to free yourself from attachments frees consciousness, which is required for the healing process.
The Magic of Simple Surrender: Are You Free to Heal?
Simple surrender is when you release all of your attachments and completely give yourself into the moment. Holding onto thinking keeps you on a superficial level. Real faith allows you to let go and surrender to your deepest wisdom and develop the perspective that confidently approaches healing
The Touch and the Life Skills Approach to Staying Connected
Connecting to your inner wisdom is experiential, like a touch. This inward journey is a way to stay connected to your powerful inner resources during a health crisis.
Six Responsibilities for the Art of Healing
The six points you have responsibility for are: your inner environment, the part of you that responds to your challenge, trusting your inner wisdom, attachments, breathing and expressing your heart. The best part of you that can consciously deal with these is your Positive Self, which is connected to the Wisdom of Your Body.
My Reality in a Healthy Way to be Sick
In this chapter, we are focusing on using the Positive Self to develop important life skills that will serve you on a daily basis. Your character is a relationship between your Positive and Negative Self-image. These nine techniques are shortcuts to developing life skills, which normally are developed throughout your life.
- This book is designed to help educate patients about their role in healing.
- It explains things through experiential exercises. This allows you to trigger the experience you need when appropriate, which is more than just understanding
- The empowered patient will learn to use inner and outer resources to become a partner with their doctor. This can speed up healing, minimize cost and make the patient play an important role.
- A healthy way to be sick, participate in healing, the empowered patient, Marc Lerner, active participation in healing, the patient’s role in healing.
What you get:
- What you get is the feeling that you are doing everything you can do to heal.
- Three main techniques to empower the patient to be an active participant are developed; the positive self (what part of you participates in healing), trust (the confidence to use powerful inner resources) and breathing into silence (a way to avoid negative thinking).
- This is followed by five techniques that support the main techniques. You will get a deeper understanding and the ability to integrate what is learned into your daily life.
National & Global uses:
A large percentage of our national budget goes to health care. In 2010, US spent $2.6 trillion on health care, or $8000+ per American. For 30 years, health care budget has grown 2% faster than the overall economy. Within the US, there is no clear link between higher spending on health care and longer life, less disability or better quality of life. By empowering patient participation, this book will lead to lowering medical expenses. Patients will need to use medical services less. When doctors and patients can be partners, patients are trusted to manage more of their own care.
If the patient’s role in healing was a global focus, the global health threats like the Ebola virus would have a stronger platform to combat that threat. When drugs were developed, patients could eliminate personal sabotaging conditioning so the drug would be openly received. When stronger partnerships are developed
Thought Provoking Questions:
- Do you blame others or yourself for your illness?
- Do you rely on others, like your Dr. or any therapist, for your healing?
- What percent of responsibility is yours in the healing process?
- What kind of sabotage do you feel contributes to your illness & healing and how do you deal with it?
- Do you feel your illness lowers the quality of life and how can you use illness to improve the quality of your life?
- Does illness decrease or improve your ability to love?
- Do you know what the Wisdom of your Body is?
Quotes and excerpts
The quality of life does not depend on the health of your body; it depends on your focus.
Responsibility comes from the ability to respond. In healing, your greatest ability comes from the Wisdom of your Body. Marc Lerner
“We often think of surrender as giving up. This is a word that truly has a negative association to so many. There is another side to surrender. When you let go of disruptive people, negative situations, and eliminate judgment you are, in effect, surrendering. This is a different type of feeling. You are letting go of the things in your life that do not serve you in a positive way. Maybe it’s time to surrender some of your ego and the pieces of your life that are not nurturing your soul.”
Joe Nunziata, Author of Weekly Word
“Not every illness can be overcome. But many people allow illness to disfigure their lives more than it should. They cave in needlessly. They ignore and weaken whatever powers they may have for standing erect. There is always a margin within which life can be lived with meaning and even with a certain measure of joy, despite illness.” Norman Cousins, Philosopher
“I cannot say I am happy I was sick. But I am happy that sickness, if it had to happen, brought me to where I am now. It is a better place than I have been before.”
Marilyn French, Novelist
This book is not intended to replace professionals that can help you, but external resources cannot be with you all of the time. Inner wisdom is not a cure for every problem; sometimes you need the help of others. The techniques in this book, however, can empower you to work with these professionals to help them help you. When you are able to accept external help from your deepest inner wisdom, you will be much better able to use it effectively. You may not always be able to control your illness directly, but you can always control the way you perceive and think about it.
In the beginning of this book, you are prepared to take the most significant journey of your life. If you can go beyond your thoughts and conditioning, you would connect to the most amazing part of you—the Wisdom of your Body. First, you will prepare for this journey. Next, you will learn a simple technique that transports your awareness beyond your mind-made reality.
Your illness may be the source of numerous challenges, but if it teaches you how to connect to the Wisdom of your Body, it can become a valuable gift. You can develop a special relationship to your body and your inner resources most people just ignore. Taking advantage of that growth opportunity is what I call a healthy way to be sick.
Connecting to your inner wisdom is experiential, like a touch. This inward journey is a way to stay connected to your powerful inner resources during a health crisis. If you focus on a superficial part of you, such as your thoughts, when coping with a health challenge, you will come up short. You need resources that come from beyond your thinking mind and connect with that touch.
MS left me with several physical handicaps, but the worst handicap I confronted was my own negativity. I was at the depths of negative thinking and I remembered the saying “we trust what is important to us.” …I was focusing on the fear, the worry and the despair. In other words, I trusted these constructs that I had made up in my own mind. Worse, they were blocks on the road to my taking care of myself. I trusted something that was limiting me.
Marc Lerner has been a life skills coach for 25 years and has been working to empower patient participation, to improve the quality of life and to improve attitudes when facing challenges. Marc has had multiple sclerosis since 1981, which is an incurable disease. He had to tap inner resources to cope with his illness because he could not rely completely on help from medical professionals. Now, Marc teaches life skills, including ways to develop a positive self-image, confidence and self-trust. In 1982, Marc founded Life Skills Institute and served as its president to 2013. Through the Institute, he worked for 25 years at the VA with veterans with PTSD, cancer and AIDS patients and the mentally ill homeless. In 2002, Marc was named Outstanding American with Disabilities Business Person in Los Angeles.
He is the author of A Healthy Way to Be Sick, The Positive Self, and The End, A Creative Way to Approach Death , all available on Amazon Kindle. In this book and in his work, he helps people to interpret their struggle in a conscious way. Currently, his focus in on approaching death. He is writing a book of poems, A Poetic View of Hospice. His writing and tele-seminars teach these skills adapted for any struggle. Marc was the host of a radio show on WorldTalkRadio, called A Healthy Way to be Sick.
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