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The Positive Self, Change Your Self-Image and You Change Your Life summary;
The focus of this book is getting to know and accept the best parts of you. In this book, we will explore this inner wisdom and how to develop a Positive Self-image. This will prepare you to consciously recondition your subconscious mind to create life skills that will empower you in the healing process. These skills will develop your character, so your healing potential is ready to manifest. Once you develop these skills, they will improve the quality of your entire life.
Have you ever seen a full moon in the sky at noon? That same moon at midnight is a very different picture. In physics, it says a light shines brighter in darkness and I feel that is a beautiful picture for the benefits of dealing with an illness.
I have multiple sclerosis, a struggle I have dealt with since 1981. I am legally blind with several other handicaps and in that picture the dark sky best represents illness or disability. That same situation has the power to force us into a wonderful self-acceptance. I feel my thoughts can be so depressing that my natural reaction is to avoid focusing on them; by doing so my awareness travels beyond thinking and I rest in a silence that comforts me. In that picture, that comfort shines like a full moon at midnight.
. What limits us from living in that state of mind? It is our thoughts. Positive and negative thoughts have the same effect; they create a man-made reality that covers the experience of life. Most people love their thoughts and feel that is their reality. My illness stripped me of my mind-made reality and forced me to really accept my life directly. In my e-book, A Healthy Way to be Sick, I share practical techniques that give you a direct connection to that inner wisdom.
To help me prepare for this final journey, I wrote a book called The End: A Creative Approach to Death. The first part of this book helped me be clear about what is involved in approaching death. The second part consists of 40 poems that helped me to prepare from a creative perspective.
Many of us have lived a life where we have become proficient in accomplishing goals; we live our lives in that state of mind. When we are close to the end of life, what is our goal? In our lives, we have been “the Doer,” where we do things by focusing on our thoughts. Preparing for death requires us to also be “the Receiver.”
Of course, there are things to do to prepare for this ultimate journey, but we also have to receive to get valuable input from our deepest inner wisdom. The majority of our character was created by habits developed as children, but most children never learned how to prepare for death.
Consciously approaching death involves utilizing powerful inner resources in a selfless way. This inner journey does not serve your ego, but it definitely brings you closer to life. If preparation can give you a better connection to life, why wait until the end of your life to prepare? It would serve everyone to prepare for death, even when it was not yet a threat. My best preparation happens when I transcend my ego and surrender in consciousness. As Lao Tzu said: “It is best to prepare for death while you are still alive.”
This book also suggests how you can write a book that creatively helps you
to approach death. When you create your thoughts in a book, you create
habits that help you during your toughest struggle, the end of life.
In March, 2014, I had my 33rd anniversary of my diagnosis of multiple sclerosis (MS). In my 33rd year, after dealing with partial blindness, brain surgery, coping with a wheelchair and excruciating pain, I entered Hospice. My entry was not because I was expected to die soon; it was just that I was on a downhill progression with my illness and I needed to manage my pain.
It was a shock to me to be put into Hospice and I knew I had to deal with it myself. My wife, Amy, and my mom were incredible supports, but they were not always available. I used poetry as a way of coping. When issues came up, writing poetry allowed me to view that same situation from a poetic perspective.
In 2013, I wrote The End: A Creative Approach to Death. I felt creativity was important, because it allowed me to use my whole brain, instead of just linear thinking. I would encourage everybody to approach any major struggle using their whole brain, especially at the end of their life. It does not really matter what your creativity is, but it has to be an expression that goes beyond worry, fear or negativity.
I am not a professional poet, but I wrote these poems to help me process the dramatic journey I was on. This is the way I coped with a situation that even the experts do not have a cure for. The spiritual perspective for me was the deepest way to capture my situation not as a victim, but making the best out of a devastating situation. For those who related to my poetry, it triggered beautiful communications.
Everyone has the opportunity to utilize their right brain, if they express their heart to those they love. Only utilizing the left brain is a way to trigger frustration and a disconnect with those you love or those who love you. It is not time to focus on intellectually figuring out your situation; that needed to have been done before your final days. Completing unfinished business in your relationships is the best thing you can leave those who love you.
The following poems are an expression of the 3 months of my time in Hospice; July, 2014 to October, 2014. I am now in palliative care. My decline is not as dramatic and pain is relatively under control.