How to Approach Health Struggles

I was once talking to a person who was dealing with lupus. I asked her how she was doing. She immediately went down a list of the things that she was dealing with. I could tell that with certain symptoms she was dealing with, her voice showed her concern. I mentioned to her that I thought more important than the symptom, was how she approached it. We both were dealing with chronic illnesses. I knew that, in my situation, I didn’t have complete control over the symptoms, but I did have control over the state of mind I approached them with.

I believe our struggles become more difficult to deal with when we approach them with an anxious mind. When we are more conscious, our emotions like fear and self-doubt are not the major focus. To me, being conscious elevates me above the situation, so I can tap inner resources without thinking. When I just surrender to my thinking mind, I might be logical about what I am doing. What follows that logic is my emotional reaction, but when I go beyond thinking, my mind is calm. The way I deal with something that is terribly wrong with me comes from a place that is free from an emotional reaction like panic. To me, there is a higher level of interacting with struggles that is beyond thoughts or emotions.

I took karate for a long time and I loved sparring in tournaments.  An important lesson I learned was in a fight. Even if you got hurt, an emotional reaction would limit your ability to fight. The best fighting came from a calm mind and a relaxed body. I take that lesson into dealing with my chronic illness. The way I deal with negative events is to come from a calm mind. Of course, it took years of training to develop this calmness, but I feel it is never too late to start striving for that state of mind. You may think it takes a lot of discipline to be that way, but the simple truth is that all you have to do is just control your focus and control your breathing.

Even though this control is desperately needed when dealing with a struggle like poor health, it is impossible when your thinking mind is more important than breathing. To communicate this practically, I would encourage you to meditate, to attain that calm state of mind. To understand my way of thinking, read my earlier blogs or clicks on the articles link.

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Spirituality and Healing: Discovering the Wisdom of the Body

Let me start by defining what I mean by spirituality and healing. Let me define spirituality not with words, but with experiential situations. First, in spirituality, something greater than your conditioned ego controls your heart. That means your thoughts and past conditioning do not limit the expression of your heart. Just think of the quality of love shared in a spiritual moment. Your love for the people in your life exists without any mental resistance and puts you into a conscious moment. This is a function of what I call the Wisdom of the Body.

In healing, it is noted that people in positive, loving relationships heal better. This is simply because the expression of love activates  the Wisdom of the Body. I define healing as the innate ability of the body to correct itself. This innate ability is limited by unharmonious thinking and past conditioning. For instance, if a person is going through a troubled divorce, the stress inhibits the immune system and inhibits the natural ability of the body to heal.

Your preconceived attitudes about things do not influence the expression of your heart. Preferences and what you identify with do not limit the simple unconditional love that spirituality provides. How you were taught to think does not change the expression of the heart in silence, where you are deeply connected to the Wisdom of the Body.

Now, imagine how your heart relates to different aspects of your life.  In a spiritual moment, your heart is always loving and is ready to receive. When meeting a stranger, that expression of the heart is different from family, friends and the people you love. The Wisdom of the Body expresses love appropriately, which means the expression depends on how it is received and how it is pulled from your heart.

The same is true when you relate to yourself. In a spiritual moment, loving yourself has love pulled from your heart determined by your relationship to the Wisdom of your Body. That means that something greater than your habitual ways of thinking relates to you with compassion and the utmost care. When people believe in God, this naturally happens, but is limited by the way they habitually think. In Latin, the word “believe” comes from “to allow.” If believing in God comes from love, you tend to allow that to be   wisdom’s deepest expression. It does not matter what religion you believe in; you allow wisdom’s love to be expressed.  For many, this quality of love comes from past conditioning that was loving, from family or romantic situations.

Another main expression is connected to your work or what you “do”. What you do and specifically how you do it come from the sub-conscious mind. Our spontaneous expressions happen without deep contemplation and totally express who we are. Where we have a spiritual connection, those expressions allow quality love to be expressed without even thinking about it.

Now think of having your heart controlled by a higher consciousness as you deal with health challenges. How you relate to your problem reflects that quality of love. That activates a strong will to live and empowers the Wisdom of the Body to assist in healing. Without a clear self- love, your thoughts and past conditioning can limit the healing process. Self-judgment can cause anxiety, which inhibits the immune system and our natural way of healing.  I feel a spiritual quality includes this pure simple love . It is available to everyone if they simply step out of the picture and accept the Wisdom of the Body. Illness and physical difficulties may still exist, but they are dealt with more consciously.

Another quality of spirituality is giving your life or consciousness to something greater than your conditioned way of thinking. Imagine taking consciousness from your habitual way of thinking and becoming more conscious of the Wisdom of the Body. That is like removing the power from thoughts that limit you and, in the process, activating the part that heals you. This can happen in a simple breath when your sub-conscious mind is consciously conditioned. With a conscious in-breath you active this deeper wisdom and with the out-breath you carry that consciousness to every expression. This quality of breathing does not cure every illness, but as you deal with a health struggle, you improve the quality of your life.

Spirituality starts as a natural expression, just as if you were breathing.  Breathing holds the secret to how we face challenges. In Latin, the word “worry” comes from “choke.” When we worry, we cut our breath short and minimize our participation in healing. Just think; it could be as simple as breathing a conscious breath. We do have the power to control our inner environment, especially in a health crisis. When your body is under stress, you tend to go beyond the ego and sub-consciously tap the Wisdom of the Body.

 

Learn more about conscious breathing, spirituality and healing in Marc’s book, A Healthy Way to be Sick, available at Amazon/Kindle.com. You can also learn the positive perspective needed in healing in Marc’s book, The Positive Self: Change Your Self-Image and You Change Your Life, also available at Amazon/Kindle.com.


© 2015 Marc Lerner   

Learning How to Let Go of Your Life

This title might sound suicidal, but this is not my intention. When you look at your life as the consciousness that keeps you alive and allows you to be more active, letting go of your life is freeing your consciousness. You are freeing it from your thoughts and conditioning. This allows you to be conscious of powerful inner resources and develop a deep spiritual connection. This goes against the way most people live their life.

We have been conditioned to be very conscious of the way we think. Our conditioning is so strong that our consciousness is trapped in our thinking mind. Basically, this is another way of defining attachments. When your consciousness is connected to a thought, you are unable to connect to your deeper inner wisdom. On almost every spiritual path, you are encouraged to let go of your attachments, which allows consciousness to enter a spiritual realm.

I want to propose to you that this can naturally happen in every breath. When we learn how to breathe beyond our thinking mind, our in-breath is a way of letting go of the thoughts that define our life. This in-breath can create a habit that frees us from our thinking mind every time we breathe. Then, on our out-breath, our consciousness returns to our thinking mind with a clear perspective.

To the ego that naturally fears death and is what we identify with, this traps us in our thinking mind. For most people, their thinking mind serves them and makes them more efficient in this world. But, when a person aspires to an important goal, that beyond-thought reality is the home of powerful inner resources that they need. For instance, if you struggle with a health crisis, breathing into this depth is how you can become an active participant as a partner with your doctor. Not only do you activate your healing powers, you remove anxious thinking that limits your ability to heal.

If you want to express love to someone who is important to you, the ability to breathe beyond thoughts allows your heart’s expression to be pure. We limit our love by the way we think and were conditioned. If you had the power to transport consciousness to the silence beyond your thoughts, your love would be free from any limitations. Of course, this happens by a habit which can happen to most people naturally. But, for those whose love is limited by their thoughts and conditioning, they may need to put conscious effort into making this happen.

Another aspect of our life that this breath can serve is our work. When we hold onto our thoughts, we block creativity and our openness to new ideas. Creativity is an important part of work and can subconsciously be limited by the habits we create. Developing the habit of conscious breathing, where we let go of our thinking mind, has the ability to makes us more conscious on our job.

Focusing on breathing may sound insignificant, but it can add quality to every aspect of your life if done consciously.  I suggest that you take time and develop the habit of letting go of your thoughts. This can happen by practicing breathing into silence every night before you go to sleep and every morning when you wake up. This will allow you an instant escape from anxious thinking and, possibly, develop this habit in every breath.

In a health crisis, you need to learn how to let go, so that powerful inner resources can assist you. In my book, A Healthy Way to be Sick, you learn to apply this in a health crisis. In my book, The End: A Creative Approach to Death, you apply this same perspective to your final days, as you approach death.


© 2015 Marc Lerner

Is it Easier to Change the Cause of Your Stress or Your Interpretation?

When you face a challenge you cannot control (like a chronic illness, losing your job or the decision of another person), you can always control the way you interpret your perception of what happens.  Victims are people who accept what happens as the only reality they deal with. The empowered person realizes what happens is something they have to deal with; how they interpret what happens determines the quality of their life, their response and how their response is received by others.

Imagine the power you have in the simple act of how you interpret your reality. The person with an externally directed focus only looks outside for the solutions to his problems. The person with an internally focused awareness tends to look within for the solutions of his problems. Both inner and outer focuses have qualities for solutions, but with a conscious breath, the inner and outer harmoniously work together. We need experts’ advice in the area they specialize and we need our inner resources to consciously respond to their advice.

Think of our in-breath as the way we take in input and connect to inner wisdom. Then, in a split second, our body processes that input, which activates our powerful inner resources to respond.   It is not a matter of choice; our mind and body are previously programmed to respond in a specific way.  

Here is our biggest question: Can the conscious and subconscious mind and body be reconditioned? The answer is complex with many variables, but the main point is, if you really want it to. Most people do not even consider that question unless their life or what they value is threatened. People with chronic illness, facing the threat of death desperately strive to change, but some are successful and some are not.

The way we interpret our situation plays a significant part in how we deal with our struggles; that is the easiest thing to change. You can change a negative interpretation simply by changing the habit of what part of you interprets it. You can consciously condition habits that are connected you to your inner wisdom instead of the you that was locked into negative past conditioning. That does not change the problems you face; it just changes how you perceive and interpret your situation. Of course, you could be a victim to your past conditioning and simply respond as usual…but why?

By consciously conditioning a new self-image, the part of you that interprets thoughts and perception…you see the world differently. Now this new self-image is not purely fantasy; it can be made from your past so that you can identify with it.  Even though the self-image you want to change was strongly conditioned and may resist change, you can create new habits that make it feel like a special part of you. When that special part of you deals with your problem, you respond more consciously with a stronger quality of life.

If this can be done with a significant life skill like your self-image, why can’t it be done with skills like self-trust, confidence and how we utilize our inner resources? We do not have to rely on how we have been conditioned; we have the power to recondition our mind. Victims feel their past conditioning is their reality. Empowered people are free to recondition their mind. If this is an easy thing to do, you have no excuse not to do it.

You can develop a positive self-image in my book, The Positive Self: Change Your Self-Image and You Change Your Life. Then, you can learn how to apply it to your health in A Healthy Way to be Sick. Find them on Amazon/Kindle.com.

 

© 2015 Marc Lerner

Using the Positive Self to Work with Clients

I was asked how I work with difficult clients. I use the Positive Self to work with clients so I am not affected by their energy was my answer. Below is a more in depth answer.

I worked with veterans with PTSD for 25 years at the VA and found myself dealing with intense clients regularly. I understand what it means to be affected by the clients you work with. I found that it was more important to change where they were coming from to avoid negative energy than it was to change myself. My main technique was to get them in touch with what I called their Positive self. We think to our self image, so if they have a negative self image, their thoughts will have a negative expression. If they have a positive self-image they got positive expressions. My technique changed self-images to a positive self-image.

Since their positive self-image was created from their own past experience, they could identify with it. I found if I focused on their Positive self from my positive self, communications happened with ease. That doesn’t say they didn’t have problems to deal with; it just meant they dealt with their problems from a more conscious part of them. My goal was to have them create a habit where they thought to their positive self regularly.

I am retired now, writing what I learned in the past. You can learn how to connect to your Positive Self on my website for free. Go to marclerner.com and look for the sample technique. This would be something for you and your clients. It only takes 10 minutes to use when you lead them through it and about a week to create a habit. I wrote a book called “The Positive Self, Change your Self Image and You Change Your Life.” I also wrote a book using techniques like that for people in a health challenge called “A Healthy Way to Be Sick” and one for those facing a death threat called “The End, A Creative Way to Approach Death.” All my books are on Amazon/Kindle.

I am personally going through those stages and find it helpful to aspire to a deeper consciousness when dealing with difficult times. Those times have a very strong benefit; they motivate you to transcend your everyday consciousness to accomplish higher goals. If you are in a difficult time, I recommend that you put your focus into using it to evolve. If you are not in a difficult time, reading these books can plant seeds in your mind, so when hard times happen, you can fall back on this understanding instead of your past conditioning. Remember you always choreograph your life; so always lean toward consciousness for a beautiful life.

The Guidance of Consciousness

Steven Hawking says in the movie, “The Theory of Everything,” that the universe is unlimited. In spirituality, you could say that ultimate consciousness is unlimited. We do not think of the consciousness within us as unlimited, but throughout the ages, people have connected to that unlimited reality. Within all of us, there is a part of us that leans toward that unlimited reality and a part of us that is locked up in our past conditioning.

 

                I believe that real spiritual aspiration brings us closer to an experiential connection to that unlimited consciousness. Unfortunately, most people identify with and lean toward their past conditioning. Consciousness has no boundaries, but our past conditioning creates boundaries. When we lean toward our past conditioning, we find safety there. It seems to create a comfort zone that we resist leaving.

 

                Most people resist entering the Unknown because it removes them from their comfort zone and creates insecurity. The part of us that leans toward consciousness in everything we do has an open door to that unlimited reality. When you base your life on past conditioning, you are subject to limitations. Positive and negative memories create limitations. Even if you have positive memories of your family and your upbringing, you experience limitations unless you go beyond them. There is no “I” in that beyond-thought reality. Because we hold on and identify with the past, we are forced out of unconditional consciousness.

 

                I have written 3 e-books that lean on that unlimited consciousness. The first book, The Positive Self: Change Your Self-Image and You Change Your Life, develops a self-image that is willing to go beyond past conditioning and venture into that unlimited consciousness.  Most  people have self-images that cause them to panic when they leave their comfort zone. The second book, A Healthy Way to be Sick, helps you lean on that unlimited consciousness when dealing with a health challenge. It develops life skills that make you feel comfortable exploring the unknown. Especially when you have a health crisis, the motivation to heal is very strong. We can accomplish goals that normally seem impossible. The last book, The End: A Creative Approach to Death, leans on that unlimited consciousness as you approach death. These books are available on Amazon/Kindle.

 

The End: A Creative Way To Approach Death

 

To help me prepare for this final journey, I wrote a book called The End: A Creative Approach to Death. The first part of this book helped me be clear about what is involved in approaching death. The second part consists of 40 poems that helped me to prepare from a creative perspective.
Many of us have lived a life where we have become proficient in accomplishing goals; we live our lives in that state of mind. When we are close to the end of life, what is our goal? In our lives, we have been “the Doer,” where we do things by focusing on our thoughts. Preparing for death requires us to also be “the Receiver.”
Of course, there are things to do to prepare for this ultimate journey, but we also have to receive to get valuable input from our deepest inner wisdom. The majority of our character was created by habits developed as children, but most children never learned how to prepare for death.
Consciously approaching death involves utilizing powerful inner resources in a selfless way. This inner journey does not serve your ego, but it definitely brings you closer to life. If preparation can give you a better connection to life, why wait until the end of your life to prepare? It would serve everyone to prepare for death, even when it was not yet a threat. My best preparation happens when I transcend my ego and surrender in consciousness. As Lao Tzu said: “It is best to prepare for death while you are still alive.”
This book also suggests how you can write a book that creatively helps you
to approach death. When you create your thoughts in a book, you create
habits that help you during your toughest struggle, the end of life.

The Positive Self

You are basically described by the way you think and by the way you
act. This book is designed to have you consciously come from the best part
of you. In this book, “The Positive Self,” you develop habits that always
have you come from a conscious place. We think to our self- image, so if you
think to a negative self-image, you get negative thoughts and actions. You
interpret your trauma negatively, which only adds to the problem. If you
think to a positive self-image, you get positive responses, interpretations
and actions. Your positive self is open to external help because it
naturally falls back on consciousness, while the negative falls back on your
conditioned habits.
There is nothing that you identify with that can represent you as
accurately as your self-image. The greatest tool for a person that deals
with anxiety is to be able to control the self-image they identify with and
the ability to switch it whenever they need to. Your self-image was formed
by the way people related to you, for that taught you how to relate to
yourself. Your self-image is at the center of every memory, every idea and
every interpretation you make of your entire life. Simply changing your
self-image from a negative to a positive will not take away anxiety or any
trauma you may have experienced, but it will change the way you interpret
what is going on.
When a person has anxiety, they often have a difficult time
concentrating. Over time, it is often the case that an anxious person
develops a negative self-image. A positive self-image gives positive
interpretations and perceives exactly what is. A negative self-image
interprets based on past conditioning. A negative self-image is created by
past conditioned habits. It is difficult for a negative self-image to be in
the moment, for it associates every input to the past.

Your entire character is a relationship between your positive and
negative self-image. You can create valuable life skills through the
interaction between your positive and negative self. For instance, the
quality of confidence is the expression of your positive self being kind and
loving to your negative self. This is where you find ways to deal with your
anxiety by using inner strengths. A habit can be triggered by a word or
phrase, so that when a person faces an anxious state of mind, they can say
their trigger and at least interpret their situation from a conscious state
of mind.
Doctors and therapists directing their input to the positive self
find their input received consciously. If they direct their input to the
negative self, the input is received based on old habits the patient
identifies with. The habits can be negative or positive, but they block you
from being conscious in the moment. A patient connected to their positive
self is more receptive and connected to powerful inner resources: a patient
connected to their negative self is not open to new ideas and justifies
their life from the way they were conditioned.
The way you receive help is affected by what part of you, you think
to. This book is also helpful for people that help other people. It could be
doctors and therapists, teachers, parents those in a relationship, or anyone
who consciously deals with others’ personal development. Actually, the
greatest use of the “Positive Self” is personal development. The real
quality of life is when you look through the eyes of a conscious part of
you. This book gives you the tools to develop conscious life skills, a
positive perspective and the ability to better learn and correct yourself.

A Healthy Way To Be Sick

 

Have you ever seen a full moon in the sky at noon? That same moon at midnight is a very different picture. In physics, it says a light shines brighter in darkness and I feel that is a beautiful picture for the benefits of dealing with an illness.
I have multiple sclerosis, a struggle I have dealt with since 1981. I am legally blind with several other handicaps and in that picture the dark sky best represents illness or disability. That same situation has the power to force us into a wonderful self-acceptance. I feel my thoughts can be so depressing that my natural reaction is to avoid focusing on them; by doing so my awareness travels beyond thinking and I rest in a silence that comforts me. In that picture, that comfort shines like a full moon at midnight.
. What limits us from living in that state of mind? It is our thoughts. Positive and negative thoughts have the same effect; they create a man-made reality that covers the experience of life. Most people love their thoughts and feel that is their reality. My illness stripped me of my mind-made reality and forced me to really accept my life directly. In my e-book, A Healthy Way to be Sick, I share practical techniques that give you a direct connection to that inner wisdom.
For the past 20 years, I have worked with people who are in a life-threatening situation. I find those people are the easiest to share this inner wisdom with. A person with cancer or AIDS will release whatever they are focused on to do something that may help save their life. People who are happy with their thoughts and ideas may not be so open to let go of their thoughts to search for inner wisdom.
I don’t feel you have to be in a life-threatening situation to accept inner wisdom; it is there for everyone. I do feel if we were to take the darkest hours of our life to search for that depth, our struggles would turn into incredible opportunities to grow. I feel when we get good at this type of learning, we can turn any challenge into an opportunity to grow and better the quality of our life.
I need to tap that inner wisdom to just deal with my struggle on a day-to-day basis. When you deal with a health crisis, you are forced to participate in life with inner resources instead of anxious thinking. Basically, your expressions can come from a deeper wisdom than your thinking mind and that depth can help you heal and become an active partner with the medical profession. Now, living from that depth may not sound so significant, but look at a simple breath. Most people’s breathing is influenced by the way they think. In Latin the root of “worry” is “to choke.” The act of worrying has the ability to cut our breath off, making us choke with shallow breathing.
Have you ever been breathed by the Wisdom of the Body? That simple breath seems to float through you and gives you a beautiful, spiritual experience. It takes a lot of trust to breathe that way, but that is where your body heals the best and you perform with excellence. That is called the “Zone of simply being” and it is A Healthy Way to Be Sick.
Inner wisdom is found in the silence beyond our thoughts. At that depth, you are free from disturbing thoughts and fears, giving you a shelter where you are free from the struggle you are in. It is at that depth the Wisdom of your Body responds to your medication without the limitations from your thinking mind. Even when you are dealing with a chronic illness, there is an inner peace at that depth and this e-book develops that quality within you.
Doctors and medical professionals have gone to school for years to learn their profession, but the Wisdom of your Body has been developed over millions of years. Now it is time for you to learn how to use inner and outer resources together.The greatest resources available to man are found within every person. The greatest problem in our world today is the fact that we don’t know how to use them.

 

The Beauty of Approaching Death Consciously

Why wait till the end of your life to consciously accept you are going to die? We all will die. Most people have a hard time even thinking about their death, but that is their ego’s resistance. In your most conscious moments, you embrace life instead of your mind-made reality. I have had MS for over 33 years; I am in a wheelchair, legally blind with several handicaps that destroy the quality of my life. I suffer from intense pain. For these reasons, I do not resist death; in fact, at times I would welcome it. You could say this is a terrible situation, but it has given me the opportunity to really study death and the way I approach it

I find that life attachments keep me from going deep inside. They are like a life preserver I subconsciously hold onto. Letting go of them allows me to go deep — to a depth that is beyond thinking — where I connect to the wisdom of my body. Imagine the things we are attached to, such as the clothes we wear. This covering makes us feel secure (if we were naked in the middle of a public event, we would not feel so secure). Think of attachments as the clothes you wear and also the heartfelt joy you feel when getting in bed with your lover naked. Approaching death consciously is removing your attachments as you get closer to death. When you let go of these attachments, you naturally embrace life, like embracing your lover.

To help me prepare for this final journey, I wrote a book called The End: A Creative Approach to Death. The first part of this book helped me be clear about what is involved in approaching death. The second part consists of 40 poems that helped me to prepare from a creative perspective. Here are a few excerpts:

Many of us have lived a life where we have become proficient in accomplishing goals; we live our lives in that state of mind. When we are close to the end of life, what is our goal? In our lives, we have been “the Doer,” where we do things by focusing on our thoughts. Preparing for death requires us to also be “the Receiver.”

Of course, there are things to do to prepare for this ultimate journey, but we also have to receive to get valuable input from our deepest inner wisdom. The majority of our character was created by habits developed as children, but most children never learned how to prepare for death.

Consciously approaching death involves utilizing powerful inner resources in a selfless way. This inner journey does not serve your ego, but it definitely brings you closer to life. If preparation can give you a better connection to life, why wait until the end of your life to prepare? It would serve everyone to prepare for death, even when it was not yet a threat. My best preparation happens when I transcend my ego and surrender in consciousness. As Lao Tzu said: “It is best to prepare for death while you are still alive.”

Basically, we think to our self-image. If you think to your Positive Self, you will get positive responses. If you think to your Negative Self, you will get negative responses. As you read this book, the importance of the Positive Self will become clear, especially in dying, for you want to have positive interpretations at this time.

You will learn how to develop self-trust, which allows you to use inner resources to be in the moment consciously, ready for that passing. You will learn how your breath is a vehicle that can transport consciousness into Silence, which activates the Wisdom of Your Body and creativity as you pass.

Too many people view death as tragic. Their focus is in the rearview mirror as they mourn what they are leaving behind. Of course, mourning is healthy as long as you are aware and conscious of where you are going. This is a natural process. Sometimes when I say I want to die, it leads to mourning and I cry. I welcome emotional release, because I do not want my approach to death to be an intellectual exercise.

Unfortunately, most people resist freedom, as they hold onto what their ego identifies with; there is no freedom in holding on like that. “Confidence” comes from the Latin, “con fide,” or with faith, and it takes confidence to face death without holding onto your mind-made reality. Actually, it takes the same confidence to face death as it does to face life, where you are totally free, connected to life in the moment. It is difficult for the ego to comprehend real freedom, because we are attached to our ego and freedom comes when you are free from all attachments.

In Stillness Speaks, Eckhart Tolle said: “In the last few moments before physical death, and as you die, you then experience yourself as consciousness free of form. Suddenly, there is no more fear, just peace and a knowing that ‘all is well’ and that death is only a form dissolving.” You need to learn how to separate your consciousness from your mind-made reality. From this state of being, you will find passing to be easy and without fear, attachments, or resistance. I think it is good to work toward that as you master approaching death.

I have a formula that I will develop in this book that gives you control over the quality of life as you approach death: Anxiety = approaching death x your resistance. As you approach death, your anxiety increases as your resistance increases. If you learn the art of surrender, your resistance will decrease until you approach death without anxiety.

The Eckhart Tolle quote allows this to happen naturally. As you develop strong habits, you can allow this to happen without creating resistance. The quality of life does not depend on the health of your body; it depends on your focus. In your approach to death, develop the focus that serves you in creating the quality Eckhart Tolle talked about in passing.

When you do this work ahead of time, it also makes it easier for those who love you and care for you. It allows them to relate to you consciously in the moment and say goodbye. There is always mourning when you deal with death, but there can also be a celebration when it is done consciously. Join me in creating the conscious moment, where you pass into a new dimension and celebrate.

Forever

Time seems to be changing for me,

Minutes seem to be so long

And even 10 seconds seem to last forever.

Maybe that is it,

I must be getting closer to forever.

***

Marc Lerner, age 62, has had multiple sclerosis since 1981. A Michigan State graduate in psychology, he worked for 25 years with cancer and AIDS patients, veterans with PTSD  and the mentally ill homeless. In 1982, he founded Life Skills Institute and began writing and giving seminars. His books include A Healthy Way to Be Sick, The Positive Selfand  The End: A Creative Way to Approach Death. All are available on AmazonHis website is lifeskillsinc.com. Marc can be contacted at (734) 913-0868.

Posted on August 28, 2014 and tagged issue 58 marc lerner