How to Approach Health Struggles

I was once talking to a person who was dealing with lupus. I asked her how she was doing. She immediately went down a list of the things that she was dealing with. I could tell that with certain symptoms she was dealing with, her voice showed her concern. I mentioned to her that I thought more important than the symptom, was how she approached it. We both were dealing with chronic illnesses. I knew that, in my situation, I didn’t have complete control over the symptoms, but I did have control over the state of mind I approached them with.

I believe our struggles become more difficult to deal with when we approach them with an anxious mind. When we are more conscious, our emotions like fear and self-doubt are not the major focus. To me, being conscious elevates me above the situation, so I can tap inner resources without thinking. When I just surrender to my thinking mind, I might be logical about what I am doing. What follows that logic is my emotional reaction, but when I go beyond thinking, my mind is calm. The way I deal with something that is terribly wrong with me comes from a place that is free from an emotional reaction like panic. To me, there is a higher level of interacting with struggles that is beyond thoughts or emotions.

I took karate for a long time and I loved sparring in tournaments.  An important lesson I learned was in a fight. Even if you got hurt, an emotional reaction would limit your ability to fight. The best fighting came from a calm mind and a relaxed body. I take that lesson into dealing with my chronic illness. The way I deal with negative events is to come from a calm mind. Of course, it took years of training to develop this calmness, but I feel it is never too late to start striving for that state of mind. You may think it takes a lot of discipline to be that way, but the simple truth is that all you have to do is just control your focus and control your breathing.

Even though this control is desperately needed when dealing with a struggle like poor health, it is impossible when your thinking mind is more important than breathing. To communicate this practically, I would encourage you to meditate, to attain that calm state of mind. To understand my way of thinking, read my earlier blogs or clicks on the articles link.

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The Formula for a Spiritual Quality of Life

The first issue in this formula is a complete breath. This breath has to be relaxed and free from stress. It has to travel beyond thinking and connect to the Wisdom of the Body, instead of  connecting to your thoughts. In a complete breath, you develop pure simple consciousness. Before you start, take a few moments and consciously breathe beyond your thoughts. Imagine your breath floating over your thoughts, instead of breathing into your thoughts.

This is beyond any anxious thoughts and connected to a freedom ego does not know exists. A complete breath activates the Wisdom of the Body, which empowers you to deal with any challenge. A spiritual quality is a complete breath minus anxious thinking:

Written as a formula, it is: Spiritual quality = complete breath – anxious thinking

The way you attain that is to focus on your breath as you ignore your thoughts. This is not a natural state of being for most people. It takes time to develop this formula into a habit. If you are in a health challenge, the alternative is to focus on thoughts of your interpretation of what is wrong with you and the future. That seldom helps you find quality. If you have unfinished business from the past, this would distract you from finding that spiritual quality and distort your efforts to participate in healing.

This is, of course, an evolved level to live at, but when in a health challenge you are forced to find that quality. People who are comfortable with their life are seldom forced to find this quality. This is the greatest benefit a health challenge offers. In this formula you live in, it helps you heal and cope with your struggle. Deal with any challenge with this Quality Formula and do not ignore your inner wisdom.

What is Your Center Focus, Your Thoughts or Consciousness?

We have been defined and judged by the way we were thinking since we were a small child. I feel the best moments of my life happened when my focus went beyond thinking and yet that is not respected in our everyday world today. We have been taught not to trust what is not scientifically proven.

We are considered “out of our mind” if we venture beyond what is socially accepted, but think of your most outrageous moments. When you were in the zone and performed magic in whatever you did, I think the best part of you performed that action. In sports, creativity or simple problem-solving, you went deeper than your logical mind and yet, today, going to that depth is not always celebrated.

In your deepest spiritual moments your attachments hold you back from the spiritual depth where you feel closest to God. I feel we can have possessions, but when our consciousness gets caught in the thought of what we possess, that becomes an attachment that limits us. When thinking becomes the center of your life, you become ego-centric. Every thought has the potential to represent ego’s concerns. That may sound responsible, but that also limits you in many ways.

When you are conscious of your center; your breath integrates inner wisdom with everything you do. Of course you can think, but your entire being is free from mental limitations. That is what I call a complete breath and it is as simple as consciously breathing. Sometimes, when we face a serious struggle like illness, we are forced to that depth.

In our everyday life, that depth is ignored by focusing on thinking, but when you face a serious challenge, that depth becomes very important. That is where the Wisdom of the Body exists and all our inner resources are found. If you are a victim, that depth is ignored. If you take an active role in creating your life, that depth is your friend.

Spirituality and Healing, Discovering the Wisdom of the Body

Let me start by defining what I mean by spirituality and healing. Let me define spirituality not with words, but with experiential situations. First, in spirituality something greater than your conditioned ego controls your heart. That means your thoughts and past conditioning do not limit the expression of your heart. Just think of the quality of love shared in a spiritual moment. Your love for the people in your life exists without any mental resistance and puts you into a conscious moment.  I call this the Wisdom of your Body.  Your preconceived attitudes about things do not influence the expression of your heart. Preferences and what you identify with do not influence the simple unconditional love that spirituality provides. How you were taught to think does not change the expression of the heart in silence, where you are deeply connected to the Wisdom of the Body.

Now, imagine how your heart relates to different aspects of your life, such as meeting a stranger. Of course that expression of the heart is different from family, friends and the people you love. The Wisdom of the Body expresses love appropriately, which means the expression depends on how it is received and how it is pulled from your heart.

The same is true when you relate to yourself. In a spiritual moment, loving yourself has love pulled from your heart determined by your relationship to the Wisdom of your Body. That means that something greater than your habitual ways of thinking relates to you with compassion and the utmost care. When people believe in God, this naturally happens, but is limited by the way they habitually think. In Latin, the word “believe” comes from “to allow”. If believing in God comes from love, you tend to allow that to be   wisdom’s deepest expression. It does not matter what religion you believe in; you allow wisdom’s love to be expressed. For many, this quality of love comes from past conditioning from family or romantic situations that were loving.

Another main expression is connected to your work or what you “do”. What you do and specifically how you do it comes from the sub-conscious mind. Our spontaneous expressions happen without deep contemplation and totally express who we are. Where we have a spiritual connection, those expressions allow quality love to be expressed without even thinking about it.

Now think of having your heart controlled by a higher consciousness as you deal with health challenges. How you relate to your problem reflects that quality of love. That activates a strong will to live and empowers the Wisdom of the Body to assist in healing. Without a clear love, your thoughts and past conditioning can limit the healing process. Self-judgment can cause anxiety, which inhibits the immune system and our natural way of healing. I feel a spiritual quality includes this pure simple love and it is available to everyone if they simply step out of the picture and accept the Wisdom of the Body. Illness and physical difficulties may still exist, but they are dealt with more consciously.

Another quality of spirituality is giving your life or consciousness to something greater than your conditioned way of thinking. Imagine taking consciousness from your habitual way of thinking and becoming more conscious of the Wisdom of the Body. That is like removing the power from thoughts that limit you and, in the process, activating the part that heals you. This can happen in a simple breath when your sub-conscious mind is consciously conditioned. With an in-breath you active this deeper wisdom and with the out-breath you carry that consciousness to every expression. This quality of breathing does not cure every illness; but as you deal with a health struggle you improve the quality of your life.

To many, spirituality makes them think too much. The spirituality I refer to happens as a natural expression, just as if you were breathing.  Breathing holds the secret to how we face challenges. In Latin, the word “worry” comes from “choke”. When we worry, we cut our breath short and minimize our participation. Just think, if it were as simple as breathing a conscious breath, we would not have worry. We do have the power to control our inner environment, even in a health crisis. Of course it will not cure every illness, but it will change the way you deal with your challenges. Breathing controls how you use consciousness. Just think if you became conscious of what heals you and unconscious of limitations.

Spirituality and healing begin with a loving heart. This is where you activate your inner resources as you aspire to completion. Healing is the expression of wisdom’s self-correction process. It is a natural expression along the path of deep spiritual experience. It involves breathing and deep control of your mind.

My work strives for this consciousness in almost everything I write about. Read over 90 of my articles on Ezine.com/MarcLerner. I encourage you to capture spiritual experiences in articles, poetry and in any way you heart expresses itself.

© 2015 Marc Lerner

What is the Benefit of the Silence Beyond Thinking?

We live in a world where our thoughts define our reality. What if we were able to become aware of the reality beyond thinking, the reality that was created by a greater power? This is what I call The Wisdom of the Body, the home of powerful inner resources. Because we constantly focus on thinking, this wisdom is ignored by most of us. When we face a difficult challenge, we have to be especially aware of this inner resource.

We live in a world where value is captured in thoughts or it goes unnoticed. Imagine really desiring something without being able to express it in words. Desires have power when they are put into words. Because our focus is on thinking most of the time, we would seldom strive for what we wanted if thoughts didn’t capture it.

Thinking is the vehicle our consciousness travels in when our ego does the driving. That is how we get what we want…but that is actually a very small part of life. Attraction happens when our consciousness is not locked into our thought patterns. Let me share how the power of being attracted to more than your thoughts really serves you. Let us explore five aspects of life that improve when you are open to being attracted to the reality beyond your thoughts.

Relationships

Compatibility is often established when two people are attracted to each other and live in harmonious ways of thinking.  Thinking can become a shield that protects the heart, which can be touched when we let go of our old thought patterns. To let go requires vulnerability and real trust. A deep bond is established when your love takes you beyond yourself as you return to your old ways of thinking. The power of simple love is that it reveals the Wisdom of the Body and allows the best of you to emerge. Imagine if you were able to avoid limiting thoughts when you shared your heart; the quality of your life would naturally improve.

For example, you may be attracted to a person outside your typical way of thinking. This is when your consciousness goes beyond your habitual ways of thinking and touches your heart.  As in breathing, your consciousness goes in, touches your heart and returns to your old way of thinking.  The hardest thing in relationships is when the old way of thinking between the two people cannot be harmonized.  When you both connect to the Wisdom of the Body, your breathing transports your consciousness back to your heart. This is how both ways of thinking become harmonized.

In society, we interact with many people that we have not typically been comfortable with. We can develop habits that transport our consciousness to our heart as we breathe in. As we breathe out, we can deal with that interaction with our heart. For example, many people are uncomfortable interacting with disabled people. If their consciousness connected to their heart, instead of to their resistance, they would be able to deal with that person better. When the Wisdom of the Body controls our breathing, we naturally transport consciousness to our heart and deal consciously with what is in front of us

 

Health

Beyond your thoughts is the Wisdom of your Body. This is the home of powerful inner resources that you need to heal. Unfortunately, we breathe into our thoughts and worries and give them life and limit that wisdom. When we give life to thoughts that harm us, we inhibit our natural protection and we tend to become ill. I prefer to let the doctors answer the question “why” we become sick and how we are to heal from illness; my role in healing is to allow the Wisdom of my Body to express itself.  If I can avoid limiting thoughts and connect to the Wisdom of the Body, I can actively participate in my healing. as an active partner with my doctor.

I feel the Wisdom of my Body responds to medications better than does my anxious ego. I eat when I am hungry and drink when I am thirsty. I exercise my heart, mind and body as I aspire to reach for this beyond thought reality…but I am still dealing with a chronic illness. The patient’s role in healing involves all of the above as you become a partner with your doctor, but illness may still be there to force you to grow.

Spirituality

Spirituality is when the Wisdom of your Body connects to the reality beyond your thinking mind. Religious rights and rituals interpret that experience into our thinking mind, but the spiritual connection comes from wisdom and consciousness connecting. Spirituality is not an intellectual exercise; understanding doesn’t replace simple surrender. Instead of our consciousness resting in our thoughts…there is a real connection to a higher consciousness.  A spiritual experience gives life to religious understanding and creates a special tenderness in your religious practice.

Education

The word ‘education ‘comes from the Latin ‘to draw out.’  In true education, we draw from a child’s inner wisdom to bring out the best of them. Instead of indoctrinating them and committing education to memory, true education entails involving their inner wisdom.  Real education is experiential and involves the Wisdom of the Body instead of superficial learning relying on memory. When a child realizes the Wisdom of their Body is their best educational tool, the education process never ends.

Play

Children express play on a joyous level with few rules and limiting self-concepts. It is our thinking mind that limits our deepest expression. That can be in sports or music, writing or humor. If we were able to eliminate limitations created by our thoughts and past conditioning, our efforts and intentions would emerge from our deepest inner wisdom. Talents are easier to develop when we have free expression than when we focus on limiting thoughts. Just think, if habits of play were encouraged in children, how that would affect their adult life.  It would give them an unlimited expression of their deepest wisdom.

 

This article shows you how important it is to develop the expression of the Wisdom of the Body in every aspect of life. To see how it applies in health, go to: Amazon/Kindle.com for Marc’s books. The Positive Self: Change Your Self-Image and You Change Your Life, explores in depth the reality beyond thinking. A Healthy Way to be Sick, explores the beyond-thought reality in the healing process.

© 2015 Marc Lerner

How Love Shapes Our Character

Talking about love, because it is so vast and so subtle, is hard to capture in words. This article attempts to share the view of how love is communicated in a relationship. Read and interpret this into your life, for the ideas will not be helpful until they manifest within you.

How many times have you said “I love you” to a variety of people? Though there are many levels of love, the words are the same. Your self-image represents you to yourself and others. It is the combination of past conditioning and experiences. We think to our self-image, which shapes our interpretations of our life. We cannot always control what happens to us, but we can control our interpretations.

In a loving relationship, if communications come from your positive self-image directed to a positive self-image in the one you share love with, love is easily given and received A positive self spontaneously comes to the moment with no baggage from the past. If communications come from or are received from the conditioned self-image, which is the blend of all the habits developed in your life, communications can be difficult. When sharing or receiving love, it is important to be free from your past, so you can share the moment together.

For instance, if you are dealing with a person who is enraged, they are probably not connected to their positive self. If you communicate to their positive self and treat them with the respect that comes from the positive self, they will change their focus and accept who you are talking to.

When you are looking for something, being clear about what you are looking for makes it easier to find. That clarity focuses you as other perceptions move to the background. You have to “experience” pure love before you find it and pass it on to others. If you are a parent, you have to experience this love within before you can develop it in your children. If it is not clear inside you, they will get a mixed message. By parents’ love and attention, the self-image of a child is developed.

The following points are issues you need to consider to make your love clear and focused. We will look at how your self-image and self-trust affect the way you love.

First, you need to develop a conscious self-image. Because we think to our self-image, thinking to a conscious, positive self helps you to be sensitive to a genuine love. Thinking to a habitual, negative self combines all your past conditioning into your love. This means that, if you grew up in a dysfunctional home, that dysfunction affects your ability to express quality love. With a conscious self-image, many qualities of loving are affected. E.g., confidence allows your love to flow without passing through mental censoring.

Second, self-trust is also something you can consciously condition. We trust what is important to us. Love determines what is important and trust opens the door to inner resources, what I call the Wisdom of the Body. By simple love, trust and inner wisdom our life is full and we can consciously deal with any challenge.

Third, a sense of humor is important, especially when it is about you. Looking at yourself from that perspective takes the seriousness/heaviness out of simple love. Too often, people get very self-conscious and judgmental about themselves and how they love. Looking through the perspective that makes you smile helps free you from the heaviness of that kind of judgment. When you do not have to carry the heaviness with love, it can float through you with ease.

Fourth, intellectual understanding frees you from a personal perspective like, “I don’t believe in love.” When you can look at love from another point of view, it can expand the way you look at it. Sharing with other people, especially in an open and intimate way, can also change you. The important word in that last sentence is ‘open,’ because you are open to change.

Fifth, reconditioning the past allows you to have a correction process to heal from when you got hurt in past loving relationships. A simple way you can recondition the past is to use imagery to relive the experience from a different point of view. For instance, if you had a negative self-image in your past interactions, relive that experience from a positive self-image.

When you can imagine your self-image loving in that situation, capture it in a word or phrase that brings you back to the experience. Next time you feel you are slipping into the negative perspective, say that trigger and be open to the new experience. Our body responds to imagery. It can be memories, dreams or conscious imagery. The body does not know the difference. Saying that trigger can instantly change the channel and give you a new perspective.

It is important to have this change happen in the sub-conscious mind. The way you do that is that before you go to sleep, develop imagery of loving from your positive self. The doors to your sub-conscious are open at that time. That trigger becomes a way to visit that in your everyday life. If you are in an awkward situation, just by saying the trigger, you can revisit that loving experience.

Another way you can experience love is to be attracted to a spiritual point of view. In a spiritual moment, the old, conditioned you does not exist. That gives you the freedom to aspire to a higher consciousness. When you are not attached to your old, conditioned self, loving is a beautiful way for transformation. In every religion, loving God or a higher power is a great way to have love flow past the clutter of negative experiences.

These points of loving already exist within you, for it is the natural way wisdom loves. By limiting what blocks you from wisdom’s perspective, you allow for real love to manifest. Love is not the expression of intellect; it comes from a depth referred to as your heart and uses every part of you to express itself. Thinking can be loves expression, just as ego and healing can be. Actions as well as emotions and humor can be love’s expression when that precious part of you is in control. Without love, every other expression comes from a disconnected ego. When love is your priority the quality of life is higher than your disconnected ego’s priority. It is completely up to you to control that and appreciate the best part of you.

© 2015 Marc Lerner

Love shapes our character. This article is expanded upon in the book The Positive Self: Change Your Self-Image and You Change Your Life. You can find it along with Marc’s other books on Amazon/Kindle.com.  The other books go into depth about our health and approaching the end of life from the positive self-image’s perspective.

Spirituality and Healing: Discovering the Wisdom of the Body

Let me start by defining what I mean by spirituality and healing. Let me define spirituality not with words, but with experiential situations. First, in spirituality, something greater than your conditioned ego controls your heart. That means your thoughts and past conditioning do not limit the expression of your heart. Just think of the quality of love shared in a spiritual moment. Your love for the people in your life exists without any mental resistance and puts you into a conscious moment. This is a function of what I call the Wisdom of the Body.

In healing, it is noted that people in positive, loving relationships heal better. This is simply because the expression of love activates  the Wisdom of the Body. I define healing as the innate ability of the body to correct itself. This innate ability is limited by unharmonious thinking and past conditioning. For instance, if a person is going through a troubled divorce, the stress inhibits the immune system and inhibits the natural ability of the body to heal.

Your preconceived attitudes about things do not influence the expression of your heart. Preferences and what you identify with do not limit the simple unconditional love that spirituality provides. How you were taught to think does not change the expression of the heart in silence, where you are deeply connected to the Wisdom of the Body.

Now, imagine how your heart relates to different aspects of your life.  In a spiritual moment, your heart is always loving and is ready to receive. When meeting a stranger, that expression of the heart is different from family, friends and the people you love. The Wisdom of the Body expresses love appropriately, which means the expression depends on how it is received and how it is pulled from your heart.

The same is true when you relate to yourself. In a spiritual moment, loving yourself has love pulled from your heart determined by your relationship to the Wisdom of your Body. That means that something greater than your habitual ways of thinking relates to you with compassion and the utmost care. When people believe in God, this naturally happens, but is limited by the way they habitually think. In Latin, the word “believe” comes from “to allow.” If believing in God comes from love, you tend to allow that to be   wisdom’s deepest expression. It does not matter what religion you believe in; you allow wisdom’s love to be expressed.  For many, this quality of love comes from past conditioning that was loving, from family or romantic situations.

Another main expression is connected to your work or what you “do”. What you do and specifically how you do it come from the sub-conscious mind. Our spontaneous expressions happen without deep contemplation and totally express who we are. Where we have a spiritual connection, those expressions allow quality love to be expressed without even thinking about it.

Now think of having your heart controlled by a higher consciousness as you deal with health challenges. How you relate to your problem reflects that quality of love. That activates a strong will to live and empowers the Wisdom of the Body to assist in healing. Without a clear self- love, your thoughts and past conditioning can limit the healing process. Self-judgment can cause anxiety, which inhibits the immune system and our natural way of healing.  I feel a spiritual quality includes this pure simple love . It is available to everyone if they simply step out of the picture and accept the Wisdom of the Body. Illness and physical difficulties may still exist, but they are dealt with more consciously.

Another quality of spirituality is giving your life or consciousness to something greater than your conditioned way of thinking. Imagine taking consciousness from your habitual way of thinking and becoming more conscious of the Wisdom of the Body. That is like removing the power from thoughts that limit you and, in the process, activating the part that heals you. This can happen in a simple breath when your sub-conscious mind is consciously conditioned. With a conscious in-breath you active this deeper wisdom and with the out-breath you carry that consciousness to every expression. This quality of breathing does not cure every illness, but as you deal with a health struggle, you improve the quality of your life.

Spirituality starts as a natural expression, just as if you were breathing.  Breathing holds the secret to how we face challenges. In Latin, the word “worry” comes from “choke.” When we worry, we cut our breath short and minimize our participation in healing. Just think; it could be as simple as breathing a conscious breath. We do have the power to control our inner environment, especially in a health crisis. When your body is under stress, you tend to go beyond the ego and sub-consciously tap the Wisdom of the Body.

 

Learn more about conscious breathing, spirituality and healing in Marc’s book, A Healthy Way to be Sick, available at Amazon/Kindle.com. You can also learn the positive perspective needed in healing in Marc’s book, The Positive Self: Change Your Self-Image and You Change Your Life, also available at Amazon/Kindle.com.


© 2015 Marc Lerner   

My View of Becoming More Conscious

The main issues of today are dealt with by focusing on what people believe. For instance, some people believe that the police shooting of Michael Brown in Ferguson, MO, was justified by the police. And others believe it was not.  Another issue is going to war in the Middle East against ISIS. Some people feel it is not our business and we should not be involved; others feel that they are a threat against America and we are justified to be active against them. A third issue is what the Republicans feel and what the Democrats feel.

 

I feel that the main problem is not in the right and wrong in what you believe in.  The main issue is the consciousness it is perceived with. When you focus on thinking, which is very important, you deal with things with a certain consciousness. When you focus beyond thinking, you can go back and deal with the issues from a higher consciousness. Most people constantly focus on thinking and they navigate through life on what they believe.

 

In Latin, the word ‘believe’ comes from the word ‘to allow.’ When you allow what you believe, you do not always have the consciousness that goes beyond your personal perspective. For instance, if you grew up in a Republican household, your beliefs would be influenced by that. If you had a selfless perspective, you would be able to see more than your past conditioning and see issues from a broader perspective.

I think the main problem in our society today is the consciousness we live our life in. We train our children to focus on thinking to be evaluated in a positive way. During those formative years, if we even presented the idea of focusing beyond thinking, they would naturally be open to that possibility. When this idea is presented to most people, they relate to it in a religious way. It takes faith to go beyond the security of thinking. For those who focus on thinking, they hide behind their belief system. The way they get to God is by focusing on the “right” way of thinking.

 

In almost every spiritual path, silence is honored as a way to connect with God. Silence is definitely beyond thinking, for your thoughts can disturb real silence. I feel the way to connect to God is not through a belief system, but the ability to surrender in silence.  In silence “you” do not exist. There is no duality and a conscious approach to issues is a natural response. It is hard for people to go beyond the idea “I am,” for they focus on thinking and identify with it. “I am a Republican.” “I am a Democrat.” “I believe in God.” “I do not believe in God.” In a high state of consciousness, “I am” is all that you need.

 

We do not enter this discussion because we do not want to influence people’s belief systems. If we dealt with this issue focused on consciousness, we would become more conscious in dealing with what we believe. For instance, religion is not taught in school, because each family has different belief systems. There is a law that separates church and state, but that does not really affect people becoming more conscious.

 

Every belief system would benefit when people were more conscious. For instance, there are many wars based on different belief systems. I feel that is unconscious. A conscious man can accept another’s belief system without being threatened. The reason this has not been understood in the past is that we live in the consciousness that is limited by the way we think. Most people have experienced this beyond-thought consciousness when they fall in love or face a challenge that really threatens them.

 

This beyond-thought consciousness is common in sports, for when people enter ‘the zone,’ they are beyond thought and perform excellently. I believe there could be ‘a zone’ in everything we do, but that requires people to go beyond the thoughts they identify with. It might seem impossible for different belief systems to live peacefully, but if we enter the zone and become conscious of more than our thoughts, our life would happen excellently.

 

The work I do in dealing with health issues involves people tapping the Wisdom of their Body. This I feel is ‘the zone’ of healing. I have had a disease for the last 33 years. Though I have not healed myself, I feel ‘the zone’ of dealing with my disease happens when I focus on consciousness, instead of the way I think. If I only focused on thoughts, it would be hard to make my life seem positive. If I surrender in consciousness, I can deal with what is happening to me in a loving, peaceful state.

 

If you look at the books I have written, available on Amazon/Kindle.com, you would learn the life skills that would help you be in consciousness, instead of the worries of your challenge. My 4 books; A Healthy Way to be Sick; The Positive Self: Change Your Self-Image and You Change Your Life; The End: A Creative Approach to Death; A :Poetic View of Hospice.

Marc’s websites: http://lifeskillsinc.com and  http://www.MarcLerner.com

Marc’s blog: marclerner.com

 

© 2015 Marc Lerner

The Guidance of Consciousness

Steven Hawking says in the movie, “The Theory of Everything,” that the universe is unlimited. In spirituality, you could say that ultimate consciousness is unlimited. We do not think of the consciousness within us as unlimited, but throughout the ages, people have connected to that unlimited reality. Within all of us, there is a part of us that leans toward that unlimited reality and a part of us that is locked up in our past conditioning.

 

                I believe that real spiritual aspiration brings us closer to an experiential connection to that unlimited consciousness. Unfortunately, most people identify with and lean toward their past conditioning. Consciousness has no boundaries, but our past conditioning creates boundaries. When we lean toward our past conditioning, we find safety there. It seems to create a comfort zone that we resist leaving.

 

                Most people resist entering the Unknown because it removes them from their comfort zone and creates insecurity. The part of us that leans toward consciousness in everything we do has an open door to that unlimited reality. When you base your life on past conditioning, you are subject to limitations. Positive and negative memories create limitations. Even if you have positive memories of your family and your upbringing, you experience limitations unless you go beyond them. There is no “I” in that beyond-thought reality. Because we hold on and identify with the past, we are forced out of unconditional consciousness.

 

                I have written 3 e-books that lean on that unlimited consciousness. The first book, The Positive Self: Change Your Self-Image and You Change Your Life, develops a self-image that is willing to go beyond past conditioning and venture into that unlimited consciousness.  Most  people have self-images that cause them to panic when they leave their comfort zone. The second book, A Healthy Way to be Sick, helps you lean on that unlimited consciousness when dealing with a health challenge. It develops life skills that make you feel comfortable exploring the unknown. Especially when you have a health crisis, the motivation to heal is very strong. We can accomplish goals that normally seem impossible. The last book, The End: A Creative Approach to Death, leans on that unlimited consciousness as you approach death. These books are available on Amazon/Kindle.

 

Changing Your Mask

This Blog will address how to change the way others think of you by modifying your personality. It is hard to imagine changing what took your whole life to develop in just a few pages. If you allow letting go of the personality you grew up with, modifying it will happen. The best way to modify it is to be aware of it with a different perspective. A different perspective comes from changing your self-image, for a positive self-image does not tolerate the flaws of a dysfunctional personality. Being aware from that perspective over time will draw out of you a more adaptable personality.

The definition of the word “belief” implies that when we “believe,” we allow it to happen. Read this Blog being willing to change and you will be pleasantly surprised. If you do not believe it is possible to modify your personality, you accept the personality you have.

In Latin, the word personality is derived from the word persona, meaning mask.  Modifying your personality is as easy as changing a mask and it is often very necessary.  For example, if the way you were treated as a child did not enable you to form a personality capable of recognizing your inner wisdom, you can now change your mask and develop a personality that does.

For the most part, our personality is what makes us think and act the way we do. If what was taught to us was taught in an unconscious way, our entire life will be sabotaged.  Many of us have developed a personality that reflects the dysfunction of our childhood environment. Because we think that is who we are, our entire life is affected.  In a conscious approach, our childhood conditioning is not seen as who we really are.

When we realize that we have the power to change the way we see our personality, we can modify it by being aware of it with a different perspective. We can really preside over our life. Each aspect of our person­ality has a different attitude, so we can create the attitude that will serve us best. This does not say that struggle or illness is caused only by your personality. However, our person­ality does affect how we deal with these things.

Sometimes our old person­ality creates an environment that welcomes illness and struggle, while the Ideal Personality naturally fights for a standard of wisdom. To me, every struggle has the potential to raise us to a higher level, so to deal consciously with struggle means that we will experience growth.

If you cling to the old person­ality, change will not hap­pen.  You must sincerely want to change your old personali­ty and accept the Ideal one. One easy way to facilitate that change is to study your old personality and how it enabled you relate to the outside world. If you recognize benefits you get from the old person­ality, you can find new ways to secure those same benefits from your Ideal Personality.  To change from your old personality to your Ideal Personali­ty, follow this short exercise; changing Your Mask

Think of four benefits you get from the old personality—the part of you that needs to change.  How do you relate to the life which the old personality is involved in?  What benefits do you get from this way of life?  What do you avoid doing by dealing with this old personality?  Does this old personality allow you to do special things?  Now record the four benefits of your old personality.

 

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Give a creative nickname to your Old Personality

 

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Now think of four benefits you would get from the Ideal Personality.  How do you relate to life from the perspective of your Ideal Personality? What benefits do you get from this new part of you? Now record the four benefits of your Ideal Personality.

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Give a creative nickname to your Ideal Personality

 

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Your Ideal Personality will actively participate in your life, using all of your inner and outer resources to accomplish your goals. This personality represents a person you would naturally believe in and trust.

The next step to take is to make the Ideal Personality real to you.  Have each personality write you a letter and let the qualities of that personality manifest. Then have your deepest wisdom respond, and let your inner wisdom manifest. The first time you connect to your personalities, you may not have a lot to say, but that will change.

The next step is to capture your Ideal Personality in a hand gesture, using your dominant hand. When you perform this gesture, say the creative nickname you gave your Ideal Personality and imagine that personality while you breathe into it, giving it life. Then, with your other hand, capture the old personality. When you feel the old personality, perform its gesture with your non-dominant hand; shift to your dominant hand by performing the gesture of your Ideal Personality.

My hand gestures enabled me to make a shift faster than any logical thinking could ever do.  Remember the definition of the word “belief” which implies that when we “believe,” we allow it to happen.  If you believe this shift can work, it will.