How to Approach Health Struggles

I was once talking to a person who was dealing with lupus. I asked her how she was doing. She immediately went down a list of the things that she was dealing with. I could tell that with certain symptoms she was dealing with, her voice showed her concern. I mentioned to her that I thought more important than the symptom, was how she approached it. We both were dealing with chronic illnesses. I knew that, in my situation, I didn’t have complete control over the symptoms, but I did have control over the state of mind I approached them with.

I believe our struggles become more difficult to deal with when we approach them with an anxious mind. When we are more conscious, our emotions like fear and self-doubt are not the major focus. To me, being conscious elevates me above the situation, so I can tap inner resources without thinking. When I just surrender to my thinking mind, I might be logical about what I am doing. What follows that logic is my emotional reaction, but when I go beyond thinking, my mind is calm. The way I deal with something that is terribly wrong with me comes from a place that is free from an emotional reaction like panic. To me, there is a higher level of interacting with struggles that is beyond thoughts or emotions.

I took karate for a long time and I loved sparring in tournaments.  An important lesson I learned was in a fight. Even if you got hurt, an emotional reaction would limit your ability to fight. The best fighting came from a calm mind and a relaxed body. I take that lesson into dealing with my chronic illness. The way I deal with negative events is to come from a calm mind. Of course, it took years of training to develop this calmness, but I feel it is never too late to start striving for that state of mind. You may think it takes a lot of discipline to be that way, but the simple truth is that all you have to do is just control your focus and control your breathing.

Even though this control is desperately needed when dealing with a struggle like poor health, it is impossible when your thinking mind is more important than breathing. To communicate this practically, I would encourage you to meditate, to attain that calm state of mind. To understand my way of thinking, read my earlier blogs or clicks on the articles link.

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The Formula for a Spiritual Quality of Life

The first issue in this formula is a complete breath. This breath has to be relaxed and free from stress. It has to travel beyond thinking and connect to the Wisdom of the Body, instead of  connecting to your thoughts. In a complete breath, you develop pure simple consciousness. Before you start, take a few moments and consciously breathe beyond your thoughts. Imagine your breath floating over your thoughts, instead of breathing into your thoughts.

This is beyond any anxious thoughts and connected to a freedom ego does not know exists. A complete breath activates the Wisdom of the Body, which empowers you to deal with any challenge. A spiritual quality is a complete breath minus anxious thinking:

Written as a formula, it is: Spiritual quality = complete breath – anxious thinking

The way you attain that is to focus on your breath as you ignore your thoughts. This is not a natural state of being for most people. It takes time to develop this formula into a habit. If you are in a health challenge, the alternative is to focus on thoughts of your interpretation of what is wrong with you and the future. That seldom helps you find quality. If you have unfinished business from the past, this would distract you from finding that spiritual quality and distort your efforts to participate in healing.

This is, of course, an evolved level to live at, but when in a health challenge you are forced to find that quality. People who are comfortable with their life are seldom forced to find this quality. This is the greatest benefit a health challenge offers. In this formula you live in, it helps you heal and cope with your struggle. Deal with any challenge with this Quality Formula and do not ignore your inner wisdom.

7 Responsibilities in the Art of Healing a Chronic Illness or Disability

Each of you have been given something that has evolved over millions of years; the Wisdom of your Body. When you develop a connection to this powerful inner resource, you play an active role in healing. When you ignore this resource; you tend to be a victim waiting for help.

When internal and external resources work together as partners; the best healing potential is realized. When you hide behind your thoughts and past conditioning, your medications will still work but your body will not respond with the eagerness to heal.

When you ask almost any sick person if they want to get better, their answer would be yes. If you looked deep inside of many patients; their body does not say the same thing. It says, ‘I am apathetic.’ Follow these seven requirements of healing and you will see if your sub-conscious mind really wants to heal.

  • You have to be responsible for your inner environment. Everything your mind creates exists because you want it to be there.
  • You have to be responsible for what part of you responds to your challenge. You have a positive side that responds harmoniously with the Wisdom of your Body and a negative side that responds harmoniously with your past conditioning. It is your choice which part of you responds to your health challenge.
  • You are responsible for the degree you trust this inner wisdom. Too often, we trust our past conditioning, which does not respond as well as that positive part of us. It is your choice.
  • You are responsible for your focus. Your focus triggers your body, which sends messages to your brain, so healing happens.
  • We are responsible for the attachments that block our awareness from performing its healing abilities. When you focus on your attachments, you are giving life to your old habits, instead of the part of you that needs to heal.
  • You are responsible for expressing your heart. Just as water cleans the inside of a pipe as it flows through, love flowing through you cleans the inside of you. Loving has a powerful effect on your will to live. The more you love…the stronger is your will to live.
  • Maybe the most important responsibility is in how you breathe. Your breath carries your awareness throughout your body. A shallow breath limits your healing process.

You can study each of these points and read expert analysis about them or you can just surrender to the Wisdom of your body and these automatically happen. It is just your mind that limits you.

Habits Needed in Our Senior Years

I met a man who was an engineer and benefited from his thinking mind his entire adult life. He had been diagnosed with cancer after he retired and now had a fear of dying.  This new challenge meant he had to develop new ways of coping.

We live in a world where “you are what you think”. Rather a stupid quote, but a reality we have to deal with. We have been taught our thoughts are very important and as we grew us conscious thinking is what served you the best. In our senior years, the focus on thinking is what can limit us. It is the wisdom beyond thinking you need to meet your challenges, especially in a health challenge.

When awareness stops on thinking, we don’t activate the Wisdom of our Body. The beauty of challenges is that they force us to go beyond ourselves to deal with them. Those who avoid meeting challenges at that depth may find comfort in their conditioning, but will seldom grow. As we age, health problems will be more likely. To meet the challenge of aging, you have to grow.

A person with a well-developed intellect tends to be able to afford external pleasures because they had a good job. They found pleasure outside of themselves consistently, but those habits will not be enough to meet the challenges of retirement and poor health. They need habits that direct them inside, so they can connect to the Wisdom of their Body.

The main obstacle to connect is how we were conditioned as a child.  To meet our challenges, we need the Wisdom of the Body. A conscious connection can be developed at any time in our life. As seniors we may need to recondition our internal habits, so they connect to our inner wisdom instead of old thinking habits.

Are you comfortable exploring the reality beyond your thoughts? If not, learn to consciously condition habits that connect you to the Wisdom of your body. That wisdom can do everything ego can do, but meets your new challenges.

To learn new habits that help your character evolve, read Marc’s book, The Positive Self: Change Your Self-Image and You Change Your Life. To help you in health challenges, read Marc’s book, A Healthy Way to be Sick. Books are available on Amazon/Kindle.com.

 

(c) 2015  Marc Lerner

What Do You Do When You Don’t Have Choices?

I don’t think there is a situation where you don’t have a choice. If all you do is focus on thinking, it may be that you just haven’t thought about it yet, so your thoughts don’t serve you. When I find myself in that situation, my greatest choice is to focus beyond my thoughts.

When most people find themselves in a situation where they think they do not have a choice, they resist or panic. Actually most of our choices are not really choices; they are the expressions of our past conditioning. We choose what seems to be harmonious with our past habits and we think that is free choice. In reality, that choice is just focusing on our thoughts and following our past conditioning.

A quote by Jiddu Krishnamurti gives another way of looking at how we participate in life. “To observe without evaluating is the highest form of intelligence.” If we avoid our thoughts and that evaluation, we observe what happens connected to what I call The Wisdom of the Body. Unfortunately, we are conditioned to focus on thinking and our observations always seem to have choices. What if when we face a situation that doesn’t have obvious choices; we learned to appreciate that higher way to evaluate what is happening to us?

Without focusing on thinking, we stop searching for alternative ways and we learn to trust the Wisdom of the Body. That doesn’t mean we don’t search for alternative ways; it just means we approach that challenge from a deeper inner wisdom. From a conscious perspective the alternatives we choose become more effective. We eliminate the old habits that compromise our efforts and we utilize external resources at their potential.

Within the body of every individual exist powerful inner resources. These are needed when you face a challenge you cannot control, such as dealing with a chronic illness or disability.  Connecting to this deeper wisdom is the role every patient must accept, regardless of what your treatment is.

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if every patient accepted their role in healing as though they were a significant member of their treatment team? Learn the patient’s role in healing through Marc Lerner’s book, A Healthy Way to be Sick, available on Amazon/Kindle.com.  Learn to deal with challenges you cannot control.

© 2015 Marc Lerner

Bio from Self Growth.com

Marc Lerner is the President of Life Skills Institute and has been working with people in a health struggle for over 28 years. He is the author of the e-books A Healthy Way to be Sick and A Light Shines Brighter in Darkness, which help people in a struggle connect to The Wisdom of Their Body. He gives tele-seminars and lectures entitled Connecting to Your Center, which you can enroll in at http://alightshinesbrighterindarkness.org. Marc has had MS  for 28 years, is legally blind and in a wheelchair. The idea of a light shining brighter in darkness reflects a positive spirit during difficult times. If you or anyone you know faces a challenge you cannot control, Marc has developed simple techniques that transport your consciousness to powerful energy resources.

Self-Trust Activates the Wisdom of Your Body

When most  people think of self-trust, they look at how they think
of themselves.  But, true self-trust is when you trust the Wisdom of
the Body, not your concept of yourself.  We trust what is important to
us, but, when our focus is limited to thinking, we   place  most
importance on our thoughts.  When we think a thought is important, we
end up trusting a symbol in our mind and we ignore inner wisdom.  The
essence of life and our deepest wisdom exist  beyond thinking.  That
is where our real challenge begins and we have to trust that.

Combat veterans  became super-conscious in combat, when life
became more important than thinking.  Many of the veterans I worked
with said, even though war was a terrible memory, their highest
spiritual experiences happened there.

In Latin, the word “redemption” comes from the word meaning “to
give back to the original owner.”  The combat veterans’     spiritual
experiences  came from realizing that life was most important.  As we
grew up, we began to give importance to our thoughts, because that was
where society focused.  Redemption is simply giving that importance
back to its original owner–life.  In combat, or when we face a
life-threatening illness, the essence of life is so much more important
than our thoughts. In that super-conscious moment, we break out of the
limitations of our mind and truly manifest.

When we are in any kind of struggle, it is important to look at
what is  really important to us.  Do we trust thoughts in our mind or
do we trust the Wisdom of our Body?  If you are going to meet your
challenge, you have to trust your deepest wisdom, instead of your past
conditioning.  If thoughts and memories are more important to you, you
trust the illusions in your mind, instead of the Wisdom of your Body.

To deal with a health challenge, trusting inner wisdom makes you
receptive to the Wisdom of your Body . This is the part of you that
literally heals.  Your deepest hope and pure positive thinking are not
as powerful as trusting your inner wisdom.  Self-trust opens  you up to
your natural healing potential and helps you respond better to your
medical  treatments.

We all have the Wisdom of the Body, but our thinking limits us from
using it.  Learn techniques that develop self-trust in Marc’s book, A Healthy

Way to be Sick, available on Amazon/Kindle.com.
(c) 2015 Marc Lerner

Spirituality and Healing, Discovering the Wisdom of the Body

Let me start by defining what I mean by spirituality and healing. Let me define spirituality not with words, but with experiential situations. First, in spirituality something greater than your conditioned ego controls your heart. That means your thoughts and past conditioning do not limit the expression of your heart. Just think of the quality of love shared in a spiritual moment. Your love for the people in your life exists without any mental resistance and puts you into a conscious moment.  I call this the Wisdom of your Body.  Your preconceived attitudes about things do not influence the expression of your heart. Preferences and what you identify with do not influence the simple unconditional love that spirituality provides. How you were taught to think does not change the expression of the heart in silence, where you are deeply connected to the Wisdom of the Body.

Now, imagine how your heart relates to different aspects of your life, such as meeting a stranger. Of course that expression of the heart is different from family, friends and the people you love. The Wisdom of the Body expresses love appropriately, which means the expression depends on how it is received and how it is pulled from your heart.

The same is true when you relate to yourself. In a spiritual moment, loving yourself has love pulled from your heart determined by your relationship to the Wisdom of your Body. That means that something greater than your habitual ways of thinking relates to you with compassion and the utmost care. When people believe in God, this naturally happens, but is limited by the way they habitually think. In Latin, the word “believe” comes from “to allow”. If believing in God comes from love, you tend to allow that to be   wisdom’s deepest expression. It does not matter what religion you believe in; you allow wisdom’s love to be expressed. For many, this quality of love comes from past conditioning from family or romantic situations that were loving.

Another main expression is connected to your work or what you “do”. What you do and specifically how you do it comes from the sub-conscious mind. Our spontaneous expressions happen without deep contemplation and totally express who we are. Where we have a spiritual connection, those expressions allow quality love to be expressed without even thinking about it.

Now think of having your heart controlled by a higher consciousness as you deal with health challenges. How you relate to your problem reflects that quality of love. That activates a strong will to live and empowers the Wisdom of the Body to assist in healing. Without a clear love, your thoughts and past conditioning can limit the healing process. Self-judgment can cause anxiety, which inhibits the immune system and our natural way of healing. I feel a spiritual quality includes this pure simple love and it is available to everyone if they simply step out of the picture and accept the Wisdom of the Body. Illness and physical difficulties may still exist, but they are dealt with more consciously.

Another quality of spirituality is giving your life or consciousness to something greater than your conditioned way of thinking. Imagine taking consciousness from your habitual way of thinking and becoming more conscious of the Wisdom of the Body. That is like removing the power from thoughts that limit you and, in the process, activating the part that heals you. This can happen in a simple breath when your sub-conscious mind is consciously conditioned. With an in-breath you active this deeper wisdom and with the out-breath you carry that consciousness to every expression. This quality of breathing does not cure every illness; but as you deal with a health struggle you improve the quality of your life.

To many, spirituality makes them think too much. The spirituality I refer to happens as a natural expression, just as if you were breathing.  Breathing holds the secret to how we face challenges. In Latin, the word “worry” comes from “choke”. When we worry, we cut our breath short and minimize our participation. Just think, if it were as simple as breathing a conscious breath, we would not have worry. We do have the power to control our inner environment, even in a health crisis. Of course it will not cure every illness, but it will change the way you deal with your challenges. Breathing controls how you use consciousness. Just think if you became conscious of what heals you and unconscious of limitations.

Spirituality and healing begin with a loving heart. This is where you activate your inner resources as you aspire to completion. Healing is the expression of wisdom’s self-correction process. It is a natural expression along the path of deep spiritual experience. It involves breathing and deep control of your mind.

My work strives for this consciousness in almost everything I write about. Read over 90 of my articles on Ezine.com/MarcLerner. I encourage you to capture spiritual experiences in articles, poetry and in any way you heart expresses itself.

© 2015 Marc Lerner

Using Habits Instead Of Habits Using You

We have the ability to step back from our situation and literally preside over our body,  creating choices not influenced by anyone except the Wisdom of our Body. We have been trained to follow the directives of the experts our entire life. When we are in a health challenge, we have to listen to that inner wisdom in partnership with the experts. This article focuses on breaking the old habits, listening to inner wisdom and participating in life with inner wisdom as a partner with the experts.

 

One blessing my chronic illness gave me was a short-term memory loss.  That was very frustrating, until I discovered the amazing tool of consciously creating habits.  A habit causes your body to perform a specific way, without having to think about what has to happen.  When you create a habit, the state of mind you were at during creating the habit, manifests as you perform that action.  This is really a beautiful thing, if you are conscious when creating new habits. The habit that emerges has you perfectly conscious in the moment using your inner resources.

 

When we find ourselves in a health crisis, we basically have two choices; we can either fall back on our past conditioned habits or deal with that crisis from connecting to the habits of the Wisdom of our Body.  For most people, falling back on past conditioning is not a conscious choice—it happens automatically.  If you choose the conscious alternative, you will be forced to develop new-conscious habits that harmonize with your inner wisdom. This is where you preside over your body and use habits instead of habits using you.

 

I often use the following example in describing my work to others.  There was a study in which a scientist taught a rat to climb some stairs and jump past a gap into one of two doors in order to eat.  For months, the food was behind the left door.  Then the scientist changed the doors, but the rat would only jump to the left. Next, the scientist opened the right door to make the food completely visible.  Still, the rat would jump only left.  The scientist then locked the left door while the food was visible on the opened right door.  The rat now jumped into a closed door and fell to the bottom of the cage.

While this may not constitute the most humane treatment of a rat, I see myself and others doing the same thing in a more symbolic sense.  The door can be open and the food right there, but we continue to choose our own ego and habits, which have been conditioned in the past, regardless of whether they serve us or not.

 

When your life is on the line, I suggest you get in tune with your inner wisdom and then partner with the experts. That scientist was the expert to the rat and the rat did what it was trained to do. Inner wisdom would realize the food was in the open door, even if the rat was trained to go left. We have to use experts with our inner wisdom.

 

In a human example, we may be used to eating foods that are not harmonious with the healing process, such as a newly-diagnosed diabetic eating sugary foods. The habits may tell you one thing, but when you listen to the Wisdom of your Body, it tells you that is not right for you. We often are true to our past conditioning, but when we live our life through conscious habits, we naturally live at a higher standard of quality.

The books of mine that I recommend to develop the skills needed in this article are: A Healthy Way to be Sick and The Positive Self: Change Your Self-Image and You Change Your Life (Amazon/Kindle). I recommend them often because they create the skills needed to deal with any struggle by connecting you to the wisdom of the body and your higher self.

© 2015 Marc Lerner

Spirituality and Healing: Discovering the Wisdom of the Body

Let me start by defining what I mean by spirituality and healing. Let me define spirituality not with words, but with experiential situations. First, in spirituality, something greater than your conditioned ego controls your heart. That means your thoughts and past conditioning do not limit the expression of your heart. Just think of the quality of love shared in a spiritual moment. Your love for the people in your life exists without any mental resistance and puts you into a conscious moment. This is a function of what I call the Wisdom of the Body.

In healing, it is noted that people in positive, loving relationships heal better. This is simply because the expression of love activates  the Wisdom of the Body. I define healing as the innate ability of the body to correct itself. This innate ability is limited by unharmonious thinking and past conditioning. For instance, if a person is going through a troubled divorce, the stress inhibits the immune system and inhibits the natural ability of the body to heal.

Your preconceived attitudes about things do not influence the expression of your heart. Preferences and what you identify with do not limit the simple unconditional love that spirituality provides. How you were taught to think does not change the expression of the heart in silence, where you are deeply connected to the Wisdom of the Body.

Now, imagine how your heart relates to different aspects of your life.  In a spiritual moment, your heart is always loving and is ready to receive. When meeting a stranger, that expression of the heart is different from family, friends and the people you love. The Wisdom of the Body expresses love appropriately, which means the expression depends on how it is received and how it is pulled from your heart.

The same is true when you relate to yourself. In a spiritual moment, loving yourself has love pulled from your heart determined by your relationship to the Wisdom of your Body. That means that something greater than your habitual ways of thinking relates to you with compassion and the utmost care. When people believe in God, this naturally happens, but is limited by the way they habitually think. In Latin, the word “believe” comes from “to allow.” If believing in God comes from love, you tend to allow that to be   wisdom’s deepest expression. It does not matter what religion you believe in; you allow wisdom’s love to be expressed.  For many, this quality of love comes from past conditioning that was loving, from family or romantic situations.

Another main expression is connected to your work or what you “do”. What you do and specifically how you do it come from the sub-conscious mind. Our spontaneous expressions happen without deep contemplation and totally express who we are. Where we have a spiritual connection, those expressions allow quality love to be expressed without even thinking about it.

Now think of having your heart controlled by a higher consciousness as you deal with health challenges. How you relate to your problem reflects that quality of love. That activates a strong will to live and empowers the Wisdom of the Body to assist in healing. Without a clear self- love, your thoughts and past conditioning can limit the healing process. Self-judgment can cause anxiety, which inhibits the immune system and our natural way of healing.  I feel a spiritual quality includes this pure simple love . It is available to everyone if they simply step out of the picture and accept the Wisdom of the Body. Illness and physical difficulties may still exist, but they are dealt with more consciously.

Another quality of spirituality is giving your life or consciousness to something greater than your conditioned way of thinking. Imagine taking consciousness from your habitual way of thinking and becoming more conscious of the Wisdom of the Body. That is like removing the power from thoughts that limit you and, in the process, activating the part that heals you. This can happen in a simple breath when your sub-conscious mind is consciously conditioned. With a conscious in-breath you active this deeper wisdom and with the out-breath you carry that consciousness to every expression. This quality of breathing does not cure every illness, but as you deal with a health struggle, you improve the quality of your life.

Spirituality starts as a natural expression, just as if you were breathing.  Breathing holds the secret to how we face challenges. In Latin, the word “worry” comes from “choke.” When we worry, we cut our breath short and minimize our participation in healing. Just think; it could be as simple as breathing a conscious breath. We do have the power to control our inner environment, especially in a health crisis. When your body is under stress, you tend to go beyond the ego and sub-consciously tap the Wisdom of the Body.

 

Learn more about conscious breathing, spirituality and healing in Marc’s book, A Healthy Way to be Sick, available at Amazon/Kindle.com. You can also learn the positive perspective needed in healing in Marc’s book, The Positive Self: Change Your Self-Image and You Change Your Life, also available at Amazon/Kindle.com.


© 2015 Marc Lerner   

Learning How to Let Go of Your Life

This title might sound suicidal, but this is not my intention. When you look at your life as the consciousness that keeps you alive and allows you to be more active, letting go of your life is freeing your consciousness. You are freeing it from your thoughts and conditioning. This allows you to be conscious of powerful inner resources and develop a deep spiritual connection. This goes against the way most people live their life.

We have been conditioned to be very conscious of the way we think. Our conditioning is so strong that our consciousness is trapped in our thinking mind. Basically, this is another way of defining attachments. When your consciousness is connected to a thought, you are unable to connect to your deeper inner wisdom. On almost every spiritual path, you are encouraged to let go of your attachments, which allows consciousness to enter a spiritual realm.

I want to propose to you that this can naturally happen in every breath. When we learn how to breathe beyond our thinking mind, our in-breath is a way of letting go of the thoughts that define our life. This in-breath can create a habit that frees us from our thinking mind every time we breathe. Then, on our out-breath, our consciousness returns to our thinking mind with a clear perspective.

To the ego that naturally fears death and is what we identify with, this traps us in our thinking mind. For most people, their thinking mind serves them and makes them more efficient in this world. But, when a person aspires to an important goal, that beyond-thought reality is the home of powerful inner resources that they need. For instance, if you struggle with a health crisis, breathing into this depth is how you can become an active participant as a partner with your doctor. Not only do you activate your healing powers, you remove anxious thinking that limits your ability to heal.

If you want to express love to someone who is important to you, the ability to breathe beyond thoughts allows your heart’s expression to be pure. We limit our love by the way we think and were conditioned. If you had the power to transport consciousness to the silence beyond your thoughts, your love would be free from any limitations. Of course, this happens by a habit which can happen to most people naturally. But, for those whose love is limited by their thoughts and conditioning, they may need to put conscious effort into making this happen.

Another aspect of our life that this breath can serve is our work. When we hold onto our thoughts, we block creativity and our openness to new ideas. Creativity is an important part of work and can subconsciously be limited by the habits we create. Developing the habit of conscious breathing, where we let go of our thinking mind, has the ability to makes us more conscious on our job.

Focusing on breathing may sound insignificant, but it can add quality to every aspect of your life if done consciously.  I suggest that you take time and develop the habit of letting go of your thoughts. This can happen by practicing breathing into silence every night before you go to sleep and every morning when you wake up. This will allow you an instant escape from anxious thinking and, possibly, develop this habit in every breath.

In a health crisis, you need to learn how to let go, so that powerful inner resources can assist you. In my book, A Healthy Way to be Sick, you learn to apply this in a health crisis. In my book, The End: A Creative Approach to Death, you apply this same perspective to your final days, as you approach death.


© 2015 Marc Lerner