Imagine the conscious mind as a portal for consciousness to enter your life. When you are in a Conscious Moment without any leaks, you are connected to an unlimited consciousness. Unfortunately that moment can have leaks, where consciousness leaks out. These leaks are thoughts or mental conditioning that grab your attention and too often become repetitive.
A commitment is where you give your all in a relationship and share a Conscious Moment. In relationship with God, to give yourself 100%, you cannot have leaks that drain consciousness from the moment. Leaks like attachments, thoughts you cannot control like desires and emotions like anger or fear, drain consciousness and limit how much you give of yourself. That relationship would have a limited commitment and a limited quality of experience.
When the experience isn’t strong, theories fill in the blanks. Without a strong experience, commitments are weak and the whole relationship may be theoretical. Religious fanatics or people in storybook relationships may believe their relationship has a strong commitment, but their commitment is really to their mind. Even in that case, their love has that ability to break down theoretical walls and strong commitments can be developed.
This may sound like only yogis or high spiritual people can have strong commitments, but even if you limit leaks on the material level, leaks can easily happen. For instance, if a person enters a monastery to dedicate their life to a higher consciousness, the celibate person can have sexual desire, but that desire is a leak.
My parents weren’t spiritual, but their commitment was incredibly strong. I feel no matter what your situation is, that Conscious Moment exists for you. I think the purpose of life is to strive to a moment without any leaks. Be it with God or your lover, a Conscious Moment is amazing.
Here is a simple 4 step process I teach for entering the moment:
Realize that you can have a Conscious Moment and be willing to enter it.
Get away from the idea, ‘I can’t do it.’
Take a breath that is free from your thoughts; imagine breathing into silence.
Relax and a complete breath takes you into the Conscious Moment
If you practice this for about 5 minutes before you go to sleep and upon awakening for at least 10 days, this will become a habit. Then when you are in a loving moment or a deep communication with God or your lover, that Conscious Moment is there for you without you even having to think about it.
This is going to be a creative way of dealing with emotions. Imagine your heart as the center of your emotional world. From that center, imagine pipes that carry your emotions to the external world. As your emotions flow through your body, different influences blend into that flow. For instance, the influence of anger is added from your mind when you are mad at someone. If you are in love, that is when the purest emotion flows from your heart. When you feel a sexual urge, passion flows from your sexual center. There are thousands of influences at varying degrees of intensity that all blend together. Now this happens all of the time, even when you are sleeping. Unexpressed emotions cause blocks in your pipes.
When your mind stops the flow of emotions, your pipes clog up, different blends emerge and the rest of your body can suffer from that. For instance, when anger is not expressed, it can be buried in your stomach and ulcers can happen. When stress is not expressed, it could cause a pain in your neck because the flow gets clogged up there. . Emotions like fear can have a powerful effect on your breathing, like having a shallow breath. Freud said unexpressed emotions will never die. They are buried alive and will come forth later in uglier ways. For instance if you were raised in a family that didn’t express their heart, when you fall in love as an adult, expressing love would be difficult.
In a healthy mind, body and soul, all of your pipes have a wonderful flow. You would live in a consciousness that transcends your thinking mind and in a simple way that life is spiritual. Solitude feels complete and surrendering to a higher consciousness is a natural thing to do. When two complete individuals share tenderness, a magical dance occurs and the love that is shared is amazing. Now this is available to everyone, but it seldom happens because the pipes are clogged up. You may think to unclog the pipes would be a difficult thing to do, but it is amazingly simple.
When your heart is open and free from mental limitations; simple love is like a super clog-breaker-upper. When two people give and receive simple love, their pipes get cleaned and their flow is wonderful. There is something you can do alone to help you on this path. If your Conditioned Self writes a letter to your Conscious Self expressing what clogs stop their flow, that would be the first step in cleaning out your pipes. Express all of your emotions like anger, fear and guilt, as if you were talking to a conscious good friend. Don’t try to be right; the main goal is to flush your pipes clean. Then connect to your deepest wisdom and respond from your Conscious Self.
In my book “The Positive Self: Change your Self-Image and You Change Your Life,” there is a form letter between your Negative (conditioned self)and Positive (conscious self) that guides you through the emotional blocks that clog up your pipes . Then it guides you through the expression of your Positive Self that gives you a conscious response. This exercise prepares you for that amazing dance between two complete people. Even when you are alone, having clear pipes dramatically improves the quality of your life.