Learning How to Let Go of Your Life

This title might sound suicidal, but this is not my intention. When you look at your life as the consciousness that keeps you alive and allows you to be more active, letting go of your life is freeing your consciousness. You are freeing it from your thoughts and conditioning. This allows you to be conscious of powerful inner resources and develop a deep spiritual connection. This goes against the way most people live their life.

We have been conditioned to be very conscious of the way we think. Our conditioning is so strong that our consciousness is trapped in our thinking mind. Basically, this is another way of defining attachments. When your consciousness is connected to a thought, you are unable to connect to your deeper inner wisdom. On almost every spiritual path, you are encouraged to let go of your attachments, which allows consciousness to enter a spiritual realm.

I want to propose to you that this can naturally happen in every breath. When we learn how to breathe beyond our thinking mind, our in-breath is a way of letting go of the thoughts that define our life. This in-breath can create a habit that frees us from our thinking mind every time we breathe. Then, on our out-breath, our consciousness returns to our thinking mind with a clear perspective.

To the ego that naturally fears death and is what we identify with, this traps us in our thinking mind. For most people, their thinking mind serves them and makes them more efficient in this world. But, when a person aspires to an important goal, that beyond-thought reality is the home of powerful inner resources that they need. For instance, if you struggle with a health crisis, breathing into this depth is how you can become an active participant as a partner with your doctor. Not only do you activate your healing powers, you remove anxious thinking that limits your ability to heal.

If you want to express love to someone who is important to you, the ability to breathe beyond thoughts allows your heart’s expression to be pure. We limit our love by the way we think and were conditioned. If you had the power to transport consciousness to the silence beyond your thoughts, your love would be free from any limitations. Of course, this happens by a habit which can happen to most people naturally. But, for those whose love is limited by their thoughts and conditioning, they may need to put conscious effort into making this happen.

Another aspect of our life that this breath can serve is our work. When we hold onto our thoughts, we block creativity and our openness to new ideas. Creativity is an important part of work and can subconsciously be limited by the habits we create. Developing the habit of conscious breathing, where we let go of our thinking mind, has the ability to makes us more conscious on our job.

Focusing on breathing may sound insignificant, but it can add quality to every aspect of your life if done consciously.  I suggest that you take time and develop the habit of letting go of your thoughts. This can happen by practicing breathing into silence every night before you go to sleep and every morning when you wake up. This will allow you an instant escape from anxious thinking and, possibly, develop this habit in every breath.

In a health crisis, you need to learn how to let go, so that powerful inner resources can assist you. In my book, A Healthy Way to be Sick, you learn to apply this in a health crisis. In my book, The End: A Creative Approach to Death, you apply this same perspective to your final days, as you approach death.

© 2015 Marc Lerner


   Preparing For a Conscious End of Life Process

Over 90% of deaths are preceded by an illness. After first diagnosis of a serious illness, but when death is not yet a threat, you can develop habits to make that time in your life have quality. Living a quality life to your final breath is something we all can do if we consciously prepare to do that. It isn’t the easiest thing to do, but all it takes is to live your life in the moment.

That means you have no unfinished business in your mind. Your relationships with the important people in your life are complete. Your hopes and dreams can feel fulfilled and you comfortably can rest in the moment. Otherwise, you are stuck in your mind, which make you unable to receive what comes next. That would give you time to consciously say goodbye to those you love and be in a place to receive their goodbyes.

Hello, my name is Marc Lerner and I have been seriously dealing with approaching death for the last year. Let me share with you the process that I am going through to help you in your preparation for your death.

This is a difficult subject to talk about because it makes most people feel uncomfortable. Once you are truly prepared to die, you don’t have to talk about it. To get ready though, you have to think and talk about it. There are three stages in this preparation; 1) once you receive the diagnosis 2) dealing with your illness and 3) approaching death.

How you receive the news sets the tone of how you will deal with the first stage of this process. I wrote a book called The Positive Self, Change Your Self Image and You Change Your Life. You might feel this is not the time to deal with personal growth, but the fact is you are entering a new significant stage. This is the last time you have to consciously deal with how to meet challenges, like chronic illness and facing death.

We think to our self-image and making your self-image conscious helps you deal with the challenge of approaching death. A positive self-image can reduce fears and resistance in dying. It helps you to communicate with people without manipulation and fears, which helps you to receive and listen without your mind racing.

The next stage is an extension of dealing with life from the Positive Self’s perspective. This is how you deal with your illness. I wrote a book called A Healthy Way to Be Sick. In this book, you learn how to meet the challenges of dealing with an illness from your Positive Self. Instead of being defeated by your illness, you learn incredible life lessons. Being conscious in this stage can help you to live a quality life as you cope with your illness.

I have had multiple sclerosis since 1981 and though I haven’t healed my condition, I continue to learn lessons that bring me closer to fulfilling my life’s purpose. My illness has been a spiritual journey with creativity, deep love and inner peace. This happens as I deal with partial blindness, an inability to walk and sometimes even to stand. My pain level can reach level of 8 out of 10. I was in Hospice for three months and graduated because my declined slowed down.

As I dealt with my illness, I met a wonderful lady who became my wife. We are both handicapped and experience a true quality of love.  That makes me think that a quality life doesn’t depend on the health of your body, it depends on your consciousness. Now to take that consciousness into the final stage; this is preparing to die.

I wrote books called The End, A Creative Way to Approach Death and A Poetic View of Hospice. I don’t think linear thinking can prepare you as well as being creative. Linear thinking is a left brain function and is often cut off from the rest of your brain. Creativity is a right brain function. It is connected to the right brain and the emotional part of the brain and bodily functions. You need your whole being to approach death, which involves your whole brain.

I chose to use poetry as my creative expression, but any creative approach can work. When I thought of an issue about my death, as I wrote a poem about it, I looked at it from different perspectives. I used imagery to capture my feelings and found associations to say what I meant through mental pictures, instead of logic.

I did the same thing when I was in Hospice. I always thought Hospice was reserved for the final stage of medical care, but poetry changed that for me. Hospice allowed me to take a close look at what I felt about dying. I felt it allowed me the ability to look at my approach, as though the medical profession acknowledged the way I felt. It was like looking at my approach through a microscope to see what I was thinking and feeling about dying. When Hospice ended, I felt being ready to die was feeling comfortable in silence, where I had no questions or comments. I felt complete.

I encourage readers to write your own creative approach to dying. When you do, you will shift from learning about my approach into manifesting your own. Each step in this venture will deepen how you literally feel. Your approach, when conscious, can take you right to the threshold of death. Creativity provides a cushion you can fall back on and an endless process until your last breath.

You can find all of my books on Amazon/Kindle.com.

I Have Found a Healthy Way to be Sick and So Can You

I have had multiple sclerosis since 1981. I am legally blind in a wheel chair with a heart full of love living with a high quality of life. I do not feel it is my intellect that gives me quality; it is the wisdom of my body. My ego may be actively involved, but when it steps aside and allows the Wisdom of my Body to manifest, I find a healthy way to be sick.

I do not feel as though I do health, I receive it with instructions from my body. Hunger tells me how much to eat and sometimes what I am hungry for. In the past, my mind created habits that were not always harmonious with the body’s wisdom. When dealing with healing with sensitivity, old habits can be broken. Just as a person with lung cancer finds the motivation to quit smoking when they are open to inner wisdom, you can find inner wisdom to guide you in what to eat.

When I see a cancer patient smoking, I feel they think the habits in their mind are more important than life itself. When your priority is to be true to inner wisdom, it benefits your health and healing. When thinking is your priority, you are guided by old habits and those may have contributed to your health problems. I am humbled when I respect my inner wisdom and when humbled I am more receptive to the Wisdom of my Body.

The significant people in my life play an important role also. Being loved and loving strengthens the will to live and activates the Wisdom of my Body.  When I was facing a health struggle and being close to death, I felt my connection to my wife strengthen my will to live. Obviously, I did not heal from my MS, but I was more open to the Wisdom of my Body. I was in Hospice for three months, but it took that long to change my priorities.

Two of my books are relevant to this blog; A Healthy Way to be Sick and A Poetic View of Hospice. You will find them at Amazon/Kindle.

For any of my books, a Power summary is available here.

The Patient’s Role in the Hospital

                How we interact with authorities without being a victim is an important lesson we all need to learn. I want to focus on the patient’s role in dealing with the hospital situation. I suggest that the patient strive to be in a super-conscious state of mind. It is difficult for a patient to agree or disagree with a diagnosis, but the patient can be extremely alert when a doctor says what they are going to do.

                One time, I was in a pre-surgery room getting prepped for trigeminal nerve (brain) surgery. I was in intense pain. The doctor was reviewing the surgical procedures before I was anesthetized. When he said the surgery would be on the nerve leading to the right side of my jaw, I immediately was alarmed. This was because the pain and nerve went to the left side of my jaw.  After the doctor checked, he said the right side was what was written on the report. He apologized and operated on the correct side. It showed how important patient participation is.

                It is easy to learn from this example, but no matter what you think the main solution is to be more conscious. In the hospital you become an equal partner with your doctor and in life you partner with authorities. They may know what happens to accomplish a goal, but your role is how conscious you are in what happens to you.

                The hospital is a place where a lot of frustration and anxiety meet professional care. It is a place where an incredible amount of information is passed. If we are not conscious we delegate responsibility to the authorities and act as a victim. Being more conscious not only prevents mistakes, being conscious makes the treatment more effective.  

                I think the main problem in dealing with authorities deals with trust. In health trusting your doctor is very essential to make a strong partnership, but trusting yourself is important also. Trust allows there to be confidence in your feedback. If you don’t trust internally your feedback is wishy-washy and you are not 100% there to participate as a conscious partner in healing. Even on a one dollar bill in America it says “In God we trust”, but for that to happen we need to trust the wisdom that perceives that. In other words we need to trust ourselves to perceive reality consciously. We need that trust to trust the doctor also.

                My personal health struggles were the research I needed to write about health issues. In my book, A Healthy Way to be Sick, I use the 33 years I have had MS to share what I learned along the way. This book can be found on Amazon/Kindle. The power summary is available HERE

From Diagnosis to the End

In the first few minutes after you receive a diagnosis, you set the tone of how you are going to deal with it. This is the way you are going to relate to your illness from that point on, until it is consciously changed. Doctors say that when a person hears a diagnosis of cancer and slams his fist on the desk, he lives longer and becomes more involved than a person who passively accepts it. Our initial reaction to the diagnosis plays a significant role, but it can consciously be changed by developing better life skills. If you trust your inner resources, you become more confident in dealing with challenges. These include self-trust, self-image and confidence.
You trust what is important to you. When you see your inner resources as an important part of your life, you confidently rely on them. When you do not see them as important, you become a passive victim, waiting
for help to come from other than yourself. In my book, A Healthy Way to be Sick, you learn how to move importance from things that are outside of you to what I call the Zero Point, where you trust yourself. Basically, that says that your life and inner wisdom are more important than your thoughts and perceptions. In a health crisis, self-trust is essential to become an
equal partner with your doctor. The doctor represents the medical world and the resources it takes to heal you. In that partnership, you represent the inner world and the inner resources it takes to heal the body and respond to medical treatments.
The next inner resource is developing a strong self-image. We think to our self-image, which is the way we interpret what is happening. A positive self-image interprets challenges in such a way that you play a significant role. Your interpretation determines the conclusion you arrive at. A negative self-image plays the role of a victim and hesitates to get
actively involved.  Since we trust what is important, we have to see our self-image as an important part of the healing process. In my book, The Positive Self: Change Your Self-Image and You Change Your Life, you develop a self-image that serves every part of you. It is your positive self that openly receives powerful inner resources and plays an active role in
The most important thing you have in healing is the attitude you have about your illness. Attitudes are based on the decisions you made in the past, when you dealt with similar situations. For instance, if in the past when you dealt with a health struggle, you decided that you cannot deal with it, you formed the attitude that eliminated active involvement in the
future. The poor decision came more likely from your negative self. It is possible to image that same situation and create a decision from your positive self, which will significantly change the attitude you have now. If you are more connected to a positive self-image in your everyday life now, that decision naturally changes.                                                                        Confidence is a result of your positive self being kind and compassionate to your negative self. This eliminates the self-doubt that negative conditioning plays in your life. Confidence, or ‘with faith’, brings a spiritual quality to the challenges you face. This quality opens you to something bigger than yourself to deal with your challenge. It eliminates the self-doubt you, too often, insert into challenges. We cannot always change the challenge we face, but we can always change what part of us deals with that challenge. Confidence is an important ingredient in really trusting ourselves.                                              Every part of a health challenge needs to have the best part of you participate. When that happens, you are a better partner with your doctor. This applies, not only to your conscious lifetime, but it also applies to how you face death. This does not only involve you, but also the people you love and those who care for you. Continue reading