What is the Benefit of the Silence Beyond Thinking?

We live in a world where our thoughts define our reality. What if we were able to become aware of the reality beyond thinking, the reality that was created by a greater power? This is what I call The Wisdom of the Body, the home of powerful inner resources. Because we constantly focus on thinking, this wisdom is ignored by most of us. When we face a difficult challenge, we have to be especially aware of this inner resource.

We live in a world where value is captured in thoughts or it goes unnoticed. Imagine really desiring something without being able to express it in words. Desires have power when they are put into words. Because our focus is on thinking most of the time, we would seldom strive for what we wanted if thoughts didn’t capture it.

Thinking is the vehicle our consciousness travels in when our ego does the driving. That is how we get what we want…but that is actually a very small part of life. Attraction happens when our consciousness is not locked into our thought patterns. Let me share how the power of being attracted to more than your thoughts really serves you. Let us explore five aspects of life that improve when you are open to being attracted to the reality beyond your thoughts.

Relationships

Compatibility is often established when two people are attracted to each other and live in harmonious ways of thinking.  Thinking can become a shield that protects the heart, which can be touched when we let go of our old thought patterns. To let go requires vulnerability and real trust. A deep bond is established when your love takes you beyond yourself as you return to your old ways of thinking. The power of simple love is that it reveals the Wisdom of the Body and allows the best of you to emerge. Imagine if you were able to avoid limiting thoughts when you shared your heart; the quality of your life would naturally improve.

For example, you may be attracted to a person outside your typical way of thinking. This is when your consciousness goes beyond your habitual ways of thinking and touches your heart.  As in breathing, your consciousness goes in, touches your heart and returns to your old way of thinking.  The hardest thing in relationships is when the old way of thinking between the two people cannot be harmonized.  When you both connect to the Wisdom of the Body, your breathing transports your consciousness back to your heart. This is how both ways of thinking become harmonized.

In society, we interact with many people that we have not typically been comfortable with. We can develop habits that transport our consciousness to our heart as we breathe in. As we breathe out, we can deal with that interaction with our heart. For example, many people are uncomfortable interacting with disabled people. If their consciousness connected to their heart, instead of to their resistance, they would be able to deal with that person better. When the Wisdom of the Body controls our breathing, we naturally transport consciousness to our heart and deal consciously with what is in front of us

 

Health

Beyond your thoughts is the Wisdom of your Body. This is the home of powerful inner resources that you need to heal. Unfortunately, we breathe into our thoughts and worries and give them life and limit that wisdom. When we give life to thoughts that harm us, we inhibit our natural protection and we tend to become ill. I prefer to let the doctors answer the question “why” we become sick and how we are to heal from illness; my role in healing is to allow the Wisdom of my Body to express itself.  If I can avoid limiting thoughts and connect to the Wisdom of the Body, I can actively participate in my healing. as an active partner with my doctor.

I feel the Wisdom of my Body responds to medications better than does my anxious ego. I eat when I am hungry and drink when I am thirsty. I exercise my heart, mind and body as I aspire to reach for this beyond thought reality…but I am still dealing with a chronic illness. The patient’s role in healing involves all of the above as you become a partner with your doctor, but illness may still be there to force you to grow.

Spirituality

Spirituality is when the Wisdom of your Body connects to the reality beyond your thinking mind. Religious rights and rituals interpret that experience into our thinking mind, but the spiritual connection comes from wisdom and consciousness connecting. Spirituality is not an intellectual exercise; understanding doesn’t replace simple surrender. Instead of our consciousness resting in our thoughts…there is a real connection to a higher consciousness.  A spiritual experience gives life to religious understanding and creates a special tenderness in your religious practice.

Education

The word ‘education ‘comes from the Latin ‘to draw out.’  In true education, we draw from a child’s inner wisdom to bring out the best of them. Instead of indoctrinating them and committing education to memory, true education entails involving their inner wisdom.  Real education is experiential and involves the Wisdom of the Body instead of superficial learning relying on memory. When a child realizes the Wisdom of their Body is their best educational tool, the education process never ends.

Play

Children express play on a joyous level with few rules and limiting self-concepts. It is our thinking mind that limits our deepest expression. That can be in sports or music, writing or humor. If we were able to eliminate limitations created by our thoughts and past conditioning, our efforts and intentions would emerge from our deepest inner wisdom. Talents are easier to develop when we have free expression than when we focus on limiting thoughts. Just think, if habits of play were encouraged in children, how that would affect their adult life.  It would give them an unlimited expression of their deepest wisdom.

 

This article shows you how important it is to develop the expression of the Wisdom of the Body in every aspect of life. To see how it applies in health, go to: Amazon/Kindle.com for Marc’s books. The Positive Self: Change Your Self-Image and You Change Your Life, explores in depth the reality beyond thinking. A Healthy Way to be Sick, explores the beyond-thought reality in the healing process.

© 2015 Marc Lerner

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Using Habits Instead Of Habits Using You

We have the ability to step back from our situation and literally preside over our body,  creating choices not influenced by anyone except the Wisdom of our Body. We have been trained to follow the directives of the experts our entire life. When we are in a health challenge, we have to listen to that inner wisdom in partnership with the experts. This article focuses on breaking the old habits, listening to inner wisdom and participating in life with inner wisdom as a partner with the experts.

 

One blessing my chronic illness gave me was a short-term memory loss.  That was very frustrating, until I discovered the amazing tool of consciously creating habits.  A habit causes your body to perform a specific way, without having to think about what has to happen.  When you create a habit, the state of mind you were at during creating the habit, manifests as you perform that action.  This is really a beautiful thing, if you are conscious when creating new habits. The habit that emerges has you perfectly conscious in the moment using your inner resources.

 

When we find ourselves in a health crisis, we basically have two choices; we can either fall back on our past conditioned habits or deal with that crisis from connecting to the habits of the Wisdom of our Body.  For most people, falling back on past conditioning is not a conscious choice—it happens automatically.  If you choose the conscious alternative, you will be forced to develop new-conscious habits that harmonize with your inner wisdom. This is where you preside over your body and use habits instead of habits using you.

 

I often use the following example in describing my work to others.  There was a study in which a scientist taught a rat to climb some stairs and jump past a gap into one of two doors in order to eat.  For months, the food was behind the left door.  Then the scientist changed the doors, but the rat would only jump to the left. Next, the scientist opened the right door to make the food completely visible.  Still, the rat would jump only left.  The scientist then locked the left door while the food was visible on the opened right door.  The rat now jumped into a closed door and fell to the bottom of the cage.

While this may not constitute the most humane treatment of a rat, I see myself and others doing the same thing in a more symbolic sense.  The door can be open and the food right there, but we continue to choose our own ego and habits, which have been conditioned in the past, regardless of whether they serve us or not.

 

When your life is on the line, I suggest you get in tune with your inner wisdom and then partner with the experts. That scientist was the expert to the rat and the rat did what it was trained to do. Inner wisdom would realize the food was in the open door, even if the rat was trained to go left. We have to use experts with our inner wisdom.

 

In a human example, we may be used to eating foods that are not harmonious with the healing process, such as a newly-diagnosed diabetic eating sugary foods. The habits may tell you one thing, but when you listen to the Wisdom of your Body, it tells you that is not right for you. We often are true to our past conditioning, but when we live our life through conscious habits, we naturally live at a higher standard of quality.

The books of mine that I recommend to develop the skills needed in this article are: A Healthy Way to be Sick and The Positive Self: Change Your Self-Image and You Change Your Life (Amazon/Kindle). I recommend them often because they create the skills needed to deal with any struggle by connecting you to the wisdom of the body and your higher self.

© 2015 Marc Lerner

What Part of You Listens to Your Thoughts

The part of you that listens to your thoughts is the subtle consciousness which is the essence of life. Most people think life is represented by their thoughts, but this essence is beyond thoughts. From this consciousness, you interpret your thoughts and the imagery can communicate to your body. Most people think about their mind simply using their thoughts.

From this consciousness, intuition guides us. Intuition is to know without reason. This is connected to The Wisdom of your Body and has the power to embrace the moment and love from a selfless perspective. You may not be able to control your thoughts, but you can control what part of you listens and interprets.

Most people have such a strong habit of focusing on their thoughts that they interpret their life simply by the way they have been conditioned to think. We think to our self-image and, though our self-image has been developed throughout our entire life, it is possible to create a self-image that is based on the most positive parts of your life. Most people’s self-image is a blend of everything they learned and interacted with during their life.

Imagine having your thoughts interpreted solely by a self-image that was created in your most conscious moments. Just think; if you are conscious in the moment, with a heart full of love, your thinking and interpretations would be ideal. You would be free from your past and your interpretations of the events in your life would be an expression of your deepest wisdom.

 

We have the ability to create a self-image like that and trigger it whenever a negative self-image appears. This is what I mean by ‘what part of you listens to your thoughts.’ You have the ability to control your self-image and interpret your life from a conscious perspective. Nobody else but you can control that.

The simple fact of controlling what part of you interprets your life is an essential key in creating a quality life. It is essential to have conscious interpretations when dealing with a chronic illness or disability. Simple problems, like falling down, having your body not respond to your mind and difficulties communicating with people are significantly influenced by the way you interpret what is going on.

Most people focus on their thoughts and the focus of their awareness naturally goes to the object of their thoughts. In our culture, the value of thinking is a precious gift. Inventions and technological progress solve problems, but sometimes our problem exists in how we interact with a challenge. Through past conditioning and habits, our character is defined. We are taught to believe that that is who we really are. Sometimes, though, during the most difficult times of our life, we are forced to explore the inner reality that exists beyond that conditioning.

 

People who live a comfortable life are not often forced to this depth. This depth, though, is available to every person and would benefit everyone’s life if they accepted this inner reality. It is from this depth that the expression of their heart is pure. It lacks the thoughts and conditioning of ego and is purely an expression of their deepest wisdom.  The quality of their love would be selfless, not compromised by their ego.

In loving moments, that inner reality is there.  Unfortunately, the habit of focusing on thinking blocks us from staying in that consciousness. Too often, we think that if we change our mind and think a certain way, our problems will be solved. When we venture beyond our thoughts and experience this reality, that state of mind would serve us in everything we do. We just need to learn how to get there when we need it.

 

In all my books, I deal with developing a positive self-image. In The Positive Self: Change Your Self-Image and You Change Your Life, I show how a conscious self-image can develop over twenty life skills needed for a quality life. In A Healthy Way to be Sick, I emphasize what part of you heals the best. In a health crisis, your positive self is connected to the Wisdom of your Body, which is a conscious link to what needs to be healed. In The End: A Creative Approach to Death, a conscious self-image takes away the fear and resistance, so you can rest in peace.  A conscious self-image does not change the challenge you face; it just faces how you deal with it. You will find these books at Amazon/Kindle.com.

 

© 2014 Marc Lerner

Learning How to Let Go of Your Life

This title might sound suicidal, but this is not my intention. When you look at your life as the consciousness that keeps you alive and allows you to be more active, letting go of your life is freeing your consciousness. You are freeing it from your thoughts and conditioning. This allows you to be conscious of powerful inner resources and develop a deep spiritual connection. This goes against the way most people live their life.

We have been conditioned to be very conscious of the way we think. Our conditioning is so strong that our consciousness is trapped in our thinking mind. Basically, this is another way of defining attachments. When your consciousness is connected to a thought, you are unable to connect to your deeper inner wisdom. On almost every spiritual path, you are encouraged to let go of your attachments, which allows consciousness to enter a spiritual realm.

I want to propose to you that this can naturally happen in every breath. When we learn how to breathe beyond our thinking mind, our in-breath is a way of letting go of the thoughts that define our life. This in-breath can create a habit that frees us from our thinking mind every time we breathe. Then, on our out-breath, our consciousness returns to our thinking mind with a clear perspective.

To the ego that naturally fears death and is what we identify with, this traps us in our thinking mind. For most people, their thinking mind serves them and makes them more efficient in this world. But, when a person aspires to an important goal, that beyond-thought reality is the home of powerful inner resources that they need. For instance, if you struggle with a health crisis, breathing into this depth is how you can become an active participant as a partner with your doctor. Not only do you activate your healing powers, you remove anxious thinking that limits your ability to heal.

If you want to express love to someone who is important to you, the ability to breathe beyond thoughts allows your heart’s expression to be pure. We limit our love by the way we think and were conditioned. If you had the power to transport consciousness to the silence beyond your thoughts, your love would be free from any limitations. Of course, this happens by a habit which can happen to most people naturally. But, for those whose love is limited by their thoughts and conditioning, they may need to put conscious effort into making this happen.

Another aspect of our life that this breath can serve is our work. When we hold onto our thoughts, we block creativity and our openness to new ideas. Creativity is an important part of work and can subconsciously be limited by the habits we create. Developing the habit of conscious breathing, where we let go of our thinking mind, has the ability to makes us more conscious on our job.

Focusing on breathing may sound insignificant, but it can add quality to every aspect of your life if done consciously.  I suggest that you take time and develop the habit of letting go of your thoughts. This can happen by practicing breathing into silence every night before you go to sleep and every morning when you wake up. This will allow you an instant escape from anxious thinking and, possibly, develop this habit in every breath.

In a health crisis, you need to learn how to let go, so that powerful inner resources can assist you. In my book, A Healthy Way to be Sick, you learn to apply this in a health crisis. In my book, The End: A Creative Approach to Death, you apply this same perspective to your final days, as you approach death.


© 2015 Marc Lerner

Is it Easier to Change the Cause of Your Stress or Your Interpretation?

When you face a challenge you cannot control (like a chronic illness, losing your job or the decision of another person), you can always control the way you interpret your perception of what happens.  Victims are people who accept what happens as the only reality they deal with. The empowered person realizes what happens is something they have to deal with; how they interpret what happens determines the quality of their life, their response and how their response is received by others.

Imagine the power you have in the simple act of how you interpret your reality. The person with an externally directed focus only looks outside for the solutions to his problems. The person with an internally focused awareness tends to look within for the solutions of his problems. Both inner and outer focuses have qualities for solutions, but with a conscious breath, the inner and outer harmoniously work together. We need experts’ advice in the area they specialize and we need our inner resources to consciously respond to their advice.

Think of our in-breath as the way we take in input and connect to inner wisdom. Then, in a split second, our body processes that input, which activates our powerful inner resources to respond.   It is not a matter of choice; our mind and body are previously programmed to respond in a specific way.  

Here is our biggest question: Can the conscious and subconscious mind and body be reconditioned? The answer is complex with many variables, but the main point is, if you really want it to. Most people do not even consider that question unless their life or what they value is threatened. People with chronic illness, facing the threat of death desperately strive to change, but some are successful and some are not.

The way we interpret our situation plays a significant part in how we deal with our struggles; that is the easiest thing to change. You can change a negative interpretation simply by changing the habit of what part of you interprets it. You can consciously condition habits that are connected you to your inner wisdom instead of the you that was locked into negative past conditioning. That does not change the problems you face; it just changes how you perceive and interpret your situation. Of course, you could be a victim to your past conditioning and simply respond as usual…but why?

By consciously conditioning a new self-image, the part of you that interprets thoughts and perception…you see the world differently. Now this new self-image is not purely fantasy; it can be made from your past so that you can identify with it.  Even though the self-image you want to change was strongly conditioned and may resist change, you can create new habits that make it feel like a special part of you. When that special part of you deals with your problem, you respond more consciously with a stronger quality of life.

If this can be done with a significant life skill like your self-image, why can’t it be done with skills like self-trust, confidence and how we utilize our inner resources? We do not have to rely on how we have been conditioned; we have the power to recondition our mind. Victims feel their past conditioning is their reality. Empowered people are free to recondition their mind. If this is an easy thing to do, you have no excuse not to do it.

You can develop a positive self-image in my book, The Positive Self: Change Your Self-Image and You Change Your Life. Then, you can learn how to apply it to your health in A Healthy Way to be Sick. Find them on Amazon/Kindle.com.

 

© 2015 Marc Lerner

Trusting Your RealSelf

When we think of trust, we think of people, places and things. That kind of trust, even though you experience it within, is directed outside of you. When we face a health challenge, we need to learn how to trust ourselves. When we trust ourselves, we are open to receive powerful inner resources. When we do not trust ourselves, we can be resistant to inner resources, because they do not fit into our self-concept. We trust what is important to us. In my work, I teach people how to take the importance out of their thoughts and return importance to life and their deepest wisdom.

 

The “Zero Point” is the name I have given to the state of consciousness where we are free to “preside over” our bodies and create conscious programs in harmony with the wisdom of the body. It is where we do not trust our thoughts as much as we trust inner wisdom. Understanding the Zero Point is the key to understanding trust.  Too often, we are programmed during difficult situations, creating disharmony in our lives. Arriving at the Zero Point, we are free from habitual programs and can make corrections, programming harmony with our deeper wisdom. At the Zero Point, we are free from damaging thoughts and real change is possible.  When we are free from tension-producing thoughts, we can enter a deep relaxation that is always there, but otherwise covered by thinking.  Entering this depth not only feels incredibly positive and peaceful, it is the home of our inner resources.

 

One of my own recurrent problems in social situations has been the fatigue brought on by MS. The fatigue I have struggled with is an exhaustion that has nothing to do with lack of sleep. During the times I experience this difficulty, the only comfort I find is at the Zero Point, where my thoughts do not touch me.  My fatigue is often hard for those around me to understand, because it seems as though I am not interested in the social event or the people I am with. Probably the worst part about it is the thoughts I have about the circumstances. Again, I have been forced to find a shelter in Silence, which is free from thoughts and comforting. In Silence, I benefit greatly from not tuning into my negative thoughts. At those times, being is not a luxury, it is a necessity.

 

Many of the veterans that I worked with also suffered greatly from their thoughts. The Zero Point is easier to find in an extreme external situation, such as wartime, but this shelter is also needed in “peace.” A veteran who understood the Zero Point told me, “In combat, you can’t think about yourself, or else fear sets in and paralyzes you. In combat there is no past or future, just the moment.” Our perception of time exists as we know it when we replace the experience of the Zero Point with the ideas of self. In the intensity of war, close to the Zero Point, the only time is the moment.

 

The Zero Point has nothing to do with the world around us or our perceptions or conceptions about it. Our perceptions and conceptions are part of the illusions created by the brain.  When many of the vets came home, their memories of war were stored in their whole brain.  These memories stopped the veterans from re-entering the Zero Point because they avoided the traumas they buried there.  The Zero Point is not a “mind-made” reality; it is the purest consciousness connected to life. But the fact is, it takes consciousness to realize experience and to listen to our thoughts and memories.  The Zero Point, then, is the pure consciousness beyond both thoughts and experience.

 

From the Zero Point, we can understand how to “be.” When I became legally blind, the outside world was blurry. I put less importance into my visual perceptions. My awareness was freed from my thoughts, and I became more and more aware of the way I was thinking.

 

Imagine the human brain as a movie projector. The light of the projector is consciousness.  The film is our conditioning, so when light flows through the film, it projects the movie on the world we live in. Going beyond thinking is like taking film out of the projector, so that it is much easier to work on our thinking processes. Unfortunately, we act as the movie director and it is hard to let go of the film we identify with.

The Zero Point is a shelter from “bad movies,” for in that state of consciousness, no thought is more important than life. If thoughts bother us, we can arrive at the Zero Point and be totally free from the bothering thoughts.  If we find ourselves in a threatening situation, connecting to being may be the only door out of that situation. The ongoing trauma experienced by many Vietnam veterans has only one exit–they have to re-own the Zero Point and live in a reality beyond memories and thoughts.  In a way, this dilemma of the veteran is a gift, because it  forced him to become super-conscious, a state of mind he knows  very well. It is thoughts which trigger suffering and he is forced to find the Zero Point, a natural shelter.

 

One veteran who was having a wonderful experience of the Zero Point gave this example to some others:   “Say we were sitting somewhere in Vietnam and I said something that really pissed you off. Maybe I said something about your mother and you went into a rage. If at that time we started to get overrun (by the enemy), at the first shot you would still go to the Zero Point, just like that, instantly.”   In response to this, I said: “No thoughts would get you there, just your passion for life would connect you. But now, in ‘peaceful’ circumstances, you think you have to rely on thought to get you there. This doesn’t work very well.”

 

Instead of using the vehicle of thinking to “work” our way to the Zero Point, we can create habits that work without thinking, but take us instantly there. While talking about the Zero Point with a group of veterans, one veteran was focused on what he had to “do” to get to the Zero Point.  I told him that counting numbers was like “doing something,” but how do we count to zero?  We are already there, but the most difficult thing is accepting that fact. If we have to “do something” to get there, we lose the focus of the moment.

 

A seminar participant at “Step-Up on Second”, a day center for the mentally ill homeless, once said this when talking about finding himself: “You have to go through death to get to where you really want to go.”  Death is a reality where we can’t “do” anything.  To the ego, it is inconceivable, but at the Zero Point, it is possible.   Since our thoughts and conditioning have created the ego we think we are, going beyond those thoughts is like going through a “death.” We don’t want a laborious journey every time we want to connect.

 

You might think that trust only relates to the groups mentioned above, but we need to learn that trust in our daily lives. For instance, in the tender moments of intimacy, we do not want to think about “getting to” the Zero Point. Creating conscious habits allows us to connect without thinking about it.

 

The books of mine that support this article are A Healthy Way to be Sick and The Positive Self: Change Your Self-Image and You Change Your Life  (Amazon/Kindle). These books will teach you all of the life skills needed to become conscious in the moment. Even if you are not sick at this moment, the lessons are extremely valuable. Learn them while you are healthy, so they will be there when and if you got sick.


THE WHOLE BRAIN

Once we understand how the brain works, we can use it to manifest wisdom. We travel through life in three main states of consciousness. The first stage I call “Innocent.” As young children, we do not know right from wrong–we are innocent. Older, we learn to distinguish between right and wrong and we develop the second stage, which I call the “Doer.”

 

The “Doer” performs actions controlled by the conscious mind, doing right and avoiding wrong and the punishment wrong actions bring. The “Doer” is focused on thoughts within the mind. This is a natural and very important learning stage, but many of us get stuck in this stage and do not go on to the next.

 

I call the final stage the “Receiver.”  In this stage, we receive from our own wisdom and accept its lessons with real openness. Many who are aware of the difference between these stages feel that it is almost an “either/or” situation; either one performs actions as the Doer, or he meditates and goes deep within and receives deeper experiences. But instead of either/or, both states of mind can exist simultaneously. We can perform actions and attain this depth by learning how to “be,” as we simply live our lives.

 

In the healing process, we need to use our whole brain. We need to do things that are right, like eating healthy foods and taking the correct medicine. We need to be receptive and listen to the Wisdom of our Body. Sometimes, a person does not learn to use their whole brain until they face a crisis, like a chronic illness.

 

When I began working with the combat veterans, they often thought I was “against” thinking. They told me that when they were in combat they had to think. My response to this was that thinking itself is not bad.  My own work obviously involves a lot of thinking. But thinking can take place in the Doer stage of consciousness, or we can learn to be receptive and receive thoughts from the deeper wisdom of being.

 

“Receptive thinking” is most likely the type of thinking that took place in a combat situation for the veterans. In those situations they were, by necessity, so connected to life that their thoughts had to come from a higher consciousness.

 

If we were to step back for a moment, we would see that the brain is the creator of every experience we have. Most of us  are conditioned to look first to external things for the experiences we want.  This happens automatically, but the external world can only activate the brain to create the desired experience. It is the brain itself that creates the experience. We can learn to use our brains to create experiences we want.

 

Once we enter the Receptive stage, we can learn a great deal from inner wisdom. The better we understand how the brain works, the easier it is to use it. Dr. Paul MacLean, a brain researcher, shows us that the brain is made of three main parts.   He calls the first part of the brain, the “Reptilian” brain. This part of the brain operates the bodily functions and is concerned with survival.

 

The next part of the brain is called the “Mammalian” brain. This is our emotional center. The third part of the brain, which is found in more evolved mammals, is called the “New” brain. The New brain is made up of two hemispheres. The Left hemisphere stores our thinking and speaking abilities. The Right hemisphere is the home of our creative and spatial awareness, as well as our connection to the Mammalian and Reptilian brains.

 

The New brain is the tool we use to adapt to society.  While these two hemispheres operate independently, they are both involved in many of the things we do.  When we speak, the Left hemisphere deals with the linear process of thinking and speaking, while the Right hemisphere can be involved with spatial awareness and creativity.  Each part of the brain is unique, but they cannot be separated into definite categories.  The fact that they work together means that analyzing the brain does not produce a “black and white” picture; rather, these two hemispheres work together.

 

In healing, we need to use the whole brain. The Left hemisphere is used to become a partner with your doctor. The Right hemisphere is a more receptive mind, which can creatively deal with uncomfortable situations. This part of the brain is connected to the Mammalian brain, which deals with emotions.

Many illnesses are affected by suppressing emotion. This makes the Mammalian brain ineffective and cuts down the connection to the Reptilian brain, which deals with the body’s functions. In a healthy brain, there is a natural flow between the New brain and the Reptilian brain and back again. This is where you communicate to your body and the Wisdom of the Body communicates to you.

 

Obviously, we do not think this way under normal conditions. When we face a challenge, like a serious illness, we have to understand this flow. It is easy to block the flow in our everyday life, simply by unconscious communications to the body and sensitivity to what the body gives back. Using the whole brain is essential in a health crisis, but it is also needed to live a quality life.

The two books I have written that will further explain this article are A Healthy Way to be Sick and The Positive Self: Change Your Self-Image and You Change Your Life. (Amazon/Kindle)

How to Share with Others When You Are Chronically Ill or Disabled

  

When people greet you with, “Hi, how are you?” most of the time they do not expect you to answer the question. When you are dealing with a chronic illness, that question can be very annoying. A person in a health struggle has to be very aware of who they are speaking to and not share with people who cannot consciously deal with it. This may seem like a small thing, but sometimes the little changes you make in your mind can completely change your perspective.

How you share sets the tone of how you relate to your illness. If your sharing is casual, giving pat answers only, your focus on your illness becomes limited. If your sharing is panicky, expressing fear, your focus will be scattered.  The ideal focus is to allow the interest of who you are talking to, to pull your answers out. This is a natural phenomenon; when you talk to someone who is truly interested, there is a flow and sharing seems to be easier. When you talk to someone with is not truly interested or uncomfortable relating to you, your sharing is awkward and does not seem to flow. So, be conscious of who you share with because it sets the tone for how you communicate about your illness.

It is important to be conscious of what you are sharing, because it is very easy to fall into unconscious, manipulative actions. For example, when a child does not want to go to school, they will often say, “I don’t feel good.” This is something children might do to get out of going to school, but that behavior can spill into other areas of your life. For example, a chronically ill person might use their illness to get out of something they do not want to do. The alternative is just to be truthful and share without any ulterior motives.

When some people have had a chronic illness for a long time, it is not uncommon for them not to want to talk about it.  They may have explained it over and over and there may be no hope for improvement in the future.  This type of sharing can create a dangerous habit, where they use avoidance and it becomes a natural response.

Often, people will try to serve you by offering you the newest ‘magic cure.’ Even though they are well-meaning, I suggest that you be open to everything, but check everything with your doctor.  It is important to have an objective perspective, where wishful thinking does not lead you down unscientific paths.

If you share with someone in an unconscious way (for instance, complaining and self-pity), you may be setting up thought patterns that do not serve you.  The ideal state of mind for a person in a health struggle is to be conscious in the moment, connected to inner resources and accepting the responsibility that this is your body. This does not depend on who you talk to.

Go to Amazon/Kindle.com to purchase A Healthy Way to be Sick, In this book, you will become an empowered patient. You will talk with the confidence that, even though you are sick, you are in control. In the book, The Positive Self: Change Your Self-Image and You Change Your Life, you develop this perspective in your entire life. The intensity of a chronic illness has the ability to make you dig deep to find resources and share from an empowered perspective.

© 2015 Marc Lerner

Communications When Disabled

 

Disability is like saying ‘no ability.’  A person locked into their thinking mind, who does not see that things can change and be new, can be more disabled than a blind person. Most people define disability as the inability to fit into society. Think about this. If there was a group of 100 people with significant disabilities and 1 or 2 healthy people, who would have a hard time fitting into the group. It depends on what group you are trying to fit into.

As a disabled person, I do not aspire to fit into a group. I aspire to become a whole person living a quality life. I define a whole person as someone whose heart, mind and body are harmonious with a higher consciousness. This has nothing to do with having a part of my body unable to function.

It is possible to aspire to become a whole person as a permanent aspiration. This means that you approach each challenge with your heart, mind and body, instead of feeling unable to be equal with other people. You might ask the question, ‘how can I do this?’ My feeling is that the first step is to accept yourself as a whole person. If you accept yourself that way, other people will tend to accept you that way. Unfortunately, the world is not this way and those who do not accept you simply are disabled themselves.

There are ways to make this change a permanent habit, which is naturally reinforced by the positive experience that happens with that change. A disabled person would welcome that change, because it could change the quality of their life simply by how they interpret things. It makes them proud and affects the quality of their life.

When you do not accept yourself, it has many ramifications. Disability is a great source of stress, which affects memory and clarity of thinking. Think of a radio signal. If there is static on the line, it is hard to receive what is being sent. This happens when you do not accept yourself. Stress can cause that. Static comes not from what is being said or what you have to deal with. It comes from how you  interpret it. We can focus on doctors and therapists to improve communication, but a person under stress might not be receptive.

We think to our self-image. If we feel a negative self-image, it amplifies the results of stress. We have a positive and negative self-image. A Negative self-image carries the burden of past conditioning and frustration. A Positive self-image listens without the stress and static on the line.

After 25 years working with the chronically ill and disabled and being disabled with a chronic illness myself, I have found the self-image is the key to conscious involvement. I have written a book, The Positive Self: Change Your Self-Image and You Change Your Life, available on Amazon/Kindle. In this book, I use a positive self-image to develop personal qualities, like confidence, releasing unexpressed emotions and stress-reduction. This is the cornerstone of my work and my life. When I deal from a positive self-image, I am empowered to deal with any challenge at my full potential.

© 2015 Marc Lerner

How to Focus During a Health Challenge

One of our most valuable gifts is our focus. I define focus as how we direct our awareness; what we give our attention to, is what we become conscious of. Even though our visual focus may seem little more than a glance, our awareness has the ability to transport our consciousness. Unfortunately, most of our glances are superficial and do not connect to any thought in our mind. When you deal with a health challenge, you have to be even more aware of how you are conscious.

Now, imagine if our consciousness was as precious as gold. Our glances would become something of value. When that happens, the little glance to our symptoms is much more valuable. When we understand the power of awareness, we can easily become more conscious of our symptoms.   A conscious glance can play a significant role in the correction process. The more conscious you are, the more you notice what is wrong. Norman Cousins would say “awareness is curative.” When you notice something wrong and in your mind you know what is right, your awareness becomes curative.

Now think about that last sentence. Your awareness notices something wrong, but in your mind and heart you know what is right. It is only your ego that resists the correction process.  If you were able to let go and listen to your inner being; you would be on an evolutionary journey. Our minds have the curative power to complete unfinished business. That is the function of our dreams. For instance, as a person with MS, I have had to teach myself to walk three times. My awareness did not heal me, but it improved both my walk and the quality of my life.

As I walked a dysfunctional walk, I would take specific notice of how my foot set down, my speed and my posture.  In my mind, I would imagine a conscious, healthy walk. Every night before sleeping, I would imagine that healthy walk and, in my mind, it became a habit. This lead to a natural correction process; awareness of my dysfunctional walk connected to the habit of my healthy walk and my body naturally corrected itself. I had to practice this over and over again and gradually my walk became healthier. When I noticed this correction process happening, I had more confidence in it. Later, I naturally trusted it. Not only did I feel confident, the quality of my life was improved.

Any patient can use this strategy. You need to notice what is happening with your symptom, then program in your mind the way you want it to be. This programming happens best if you image it before you go to sleep and when you wake up. This way, it will create a strong habit without the interference of your ego. When awareness of what is happening connects to a conscious walk it creates a correction process.

As my MS progressed, I eventually needed to use a wheelchair. However, I had been able to enjoy many more years of walking than the doctors predicted. This means that this heightened awareness is especially important while you are in a health challenge. Your awareness is an incredible tool that should be consciously used. Just think, if a conscious glance had the power to activate healing and not fear and doubt, that would become an essential ingredient to ‘a healthy way to be sick.’

In my book “A Healthy Way to Be Sick,” there are several techniques that are helpful, but too often they are over looked, distracted by everyday concerns. When you become conscious of them, they become valued tools. With a conscious perspective, like with the Positive Self, these tools become obvious and useful keys to healing. Learn how to connect to your Positive Self with a book of that name. These books are available in Amazon/Kindle store.

© 2015 Marc Lerner