Creating a Conscious Self-Image

Who we are seems to be the most important issue in our life. Our personality is how the world knows us. It was created from the habits we learned beginning as a very young child. We developed those habits by the way people related to us, especially the significant people in our family. Also, the habits formed by the way we related to the external   world helped teach us who we are. The personality is like the clothes we wear; it covers us so we are accepted

Our self-image is how we relate to ourselves. This also was primarily developed by habits from our personality, but it is our self- image that is connected to the Wisdom of the Body. A conscious self-image was from conscious habits, where you were in the moment with a positive perspective. A conditioned self-image came from your conditioned habits and is not connected to inner wisdom. A conditioned self-image is not bad, but it is a negative self-image because of its limitations in connecting to the moment. A conditioned or negative self-image makes your awareness stop at your habits. The conscious or positive self-image allows awareness to go beyond conditioning and connect to the Wisdom of the Body.

As an adult, we have a choice with what image we relate to: the one conditioned by our environment or a self-image consciously created connected to the Wisdom of the Body. When a person faces a challenge they were not taught to deal with, they will ideally create a conscious self-image. This is especially true when dealing with a chronic illness. The Wisdom of the Body has powerful inner resources to enable you to become an active partner with the doctor and not become a victim. This is also true in having a loving relationship, having a job that challenges you and having a quality life, regardless of what you do or own.

Most people are so identified with their conditioned self-image, they don’t put energy into developing a new self-image. This can happen in many ways, but you need to be open to submit yourself to a change. A positive self-image can be developed in a loving relationship, a rewarding job or with many types of recognition in any part of a successful life. Success isn’t limited to being wealthy, for many people who are wealthy do not live a quality life as a whole person.

It is possible to create a positive self-image when you are trapped in the world of your negative or conditioned self. If you look back in your past and identify with the most positive experience you remember, you will find a time where your body experienced the effect of a positive self-image. Unfortunately, that part of you wasn’t reinforced over time, so you didn’t create the habits needed for a positive self-image.

It is never too late to build on that experience and develop a new conscious self-image. In fact, sometimes it is essential to develop a positive one, even though your habits formed in the past may not reinforce this change. Having the new self-image to fit into your life, you need to consciously re-condition your sub-conscious mind. This can happen if you consciously connect to the new self-image before you go to sleep and upon awakening. This is when the doors to the sub-conscious are open and strong habits can be developed. It takes about ten days to develop a strong habit, so you have to do this conditioning in the morning and at night. To do this, recall the memory of that positive experience and feel it.

In my book, The Positive Self: Change Your Self-Image and You Change Your Life, I lead you through a technique that connects you directly to your positive self. There are many ways I show you to develop a strong habit. One way is to create a journal, where your negative self expresses itself to your positive self. This develops a habit of thoughts directed to your positive self and an openness to receive with your positive self. I show you techniques to switch quickly between your negative and positive self. I go more in depth on how to program your sub-conscious and how to connect to your positive self by just a word or a phrase. This book goes into depth with techniques using your positive self to develop qualities like confidence and the ability to complete unfinished business.

Here are the benefits of a conscious/positive self-image: In relationships, when the positive self of one person relates to the positive self of another person, there is a strong commitment. In a romantic relationship, the expression of the heart becomes very easy and the commitment becomes stronger. At work, you do your job more efficiently, more creatively and with a better attitude. In a spiritual sense, you have an easier time transcending to a depth beyond unfinished business and with a heartfelt approach connecting to God, or whatever you believe in. Basically, your conscious/positive self creates a high quality of life.


The Art of Forgiveness

Forgiveness is a mental tool that frees you from the past. Where forgiveness comes from is as important as what is said. Coming from your Conscious Self means it is sincere, without any hidden message in it. When it comes from your Conditioned Self, unfinished business from the past can be hidden in what is said. For instance, if someone you work with does something that hurts you, you can forgive them in the spirit of getting the job done, but you still are hurt. If it comes from your Conscious Self, you are so in the moment, the past doesn’t affect you.

Your intention has to be positive to whom you forgive or the Conditioned Self takes over. The goal subconsciously has to be connected to your heart or you will never let go, so real forgiveness cannot happen. Sometimes when you have to forgive other people, the simple solution may be having pure love flow through you to the other person. It is better to have the experience of forgiveness than the experience of whatever you hold onto. A sincere forgiveness is good for the one forgiven and it is good for the one who forgives, because the experience of not holding on to anything in the past brings you deeper into the moment.

Sometimes you have to forgive yourself. This is where your Conscious Self forgives your Conditioned Self. This maybe the hardest forgiveness to happen. To forgive yourself, you have to totally be in the moment without any identification with what is forgiven. Say you have to wash the floor. Where you stand is what needs to be forgiven. Now, how do you wash the floor you are standing on? You have to rise in consciousness, so that you are separate from what has to be forgiven.

When consciousness is elevated, your whole being elevates and you are free from the past. From that perspective, you are able to forgive yourself. It is why it is hard to forgive yourself, because elevating consciousness is not what most people do. It is easier to stay in the consciousness we live with than to change it. If everyone raised their consciousness, family feuds and the high number of divorces would be limited and solitude would be a beautiful experience.