Disability is like saying ‘no ability.’ A person locked into their thinking mind, who does not see that things can change and be new, can be more disabled than a blind person. Most people define disability as the inability to fit into society. Think about this. If there was a group of 100 people with significant disabilities and 1 or 2 healthy people, who would have a hard time fitting into the group. It depends on what group you are trying to fit into.
As a disabled person, I do not aspire to fit into a group. I aspire to become a whole person living a quality life. I define a whole person as someone whose heart, mind and body are harmonious with a higher consciousness. This has nothing to do with having a part of my body unable to function.
It is possible to aspire to become a whole person as a permanent aspiration. This means that you approach each challenge with your heart, mind and body, instead of feeling unable to be equal with other people. You might ask the question, ‘how can I do this?’ My feeling is that the first step is to accept yourself as a whole person. If you accept yourself that way, other people will tend to accept you that way. Unfortunately, the world is not this way and those who do not accept you simply are disabled themselves.
There are ways to make this change a permanent habit, which is naturally reinforced by the positive experience that happens with that change. A disabled person would welcome that change, because it could change the quality of their life simply by how they interpret things. It makes them proud and affects the quality of their life.
When you do not accept yourself, it has many ramifications. Disability is a great source of stress, which affects memory and clarity of thinking. Think of a radio signal. If there is static on the line, it is hard to receive what is being sent. This happens when you do not accept yourself. Stress can cause that. Static comes not from what is being said or what you have to deal with. It comes from how you interpret it. We can focus on doctors and therapists to improve communication, but a person under stress might not be receptive.
We think to our self-image. If we feel a negative self-image, it amplifies the results of stress. We have a positive and negative self-image. A Negative self-image carries the burden of past conditioning and frustration. A Positive self-image listens without the stress and static on the line.
After 25 years working with the chronically ill and disabled and being disabled with a chronic illness myself, I have found the self-image is the key to conscious involvement. I have written a book, The Positive Self: Change Your Self-Image and You Change Your Life, available on Amazon/Kindle. In this book, I use a positive self-image to develop personal qualities, like confidence, releasing unexpressed emotions and stress-reduction. This is the cornerstone of my work and my life. When I deal from a positive self-image, I am empowered to deal with any challenge at my full potential.
© 2015 Marc Lerner