Over 90% of deaths are preceded by an illness. After first diagnosis of a serious illness, but when death is not yet a threat, you can develop habits to make that time in your life have quality. Living a quality life to your final breath is something we all can do if we consciously prepare to do that. It isn’t the easiest thing to do, but all it takes is to live your life in the moment.
That means you have no unfinished business in your mind. Your relationships with the important people in your life are complete. Your hopes and dreams can feel fulfilled and you comfortably can rest in the moment. Otherwise, you are stuck in your mind, which make you unable to receive what comes next. That would give you time to consciously say goodbye to those you love and be in a place to receive their goodbyes.
Hello, my name is Marc Lerner and I have been seriously dealing with approaching death for the last year. Let me share with you the process that I am going through to help you in your preparation for your death.
This is a difficult subject to talk about because it makes most people feel uncomfortable. Once you are truly prepared to die, you don’t have to talk about it. To get ready though, you have to think and talk about it. There are three stages in this preparation; 1) once you receive the diagnosis 2) dealing with your illness and 3) approaching death.
How you receive the news sets the tone of how you will deal with the first stage of this process. I wrote a book called The Positive Self, Change Your Self Image and You Change Your Life. You might feel this is not the time to deal with personal growth, but the fact is you are entering a new significant stage. This is the last time you have to consciously deal with how to meet challenges, like chronic illness and facing death.
We think to our self-image and making your self-image conscious helps you deal with the challenge of approaching death. A positive self-image can reduce fears and resistance in dying. It helps you to communicate with people without manipulation and fears, which helps you to receive and listen without your mind racing.
The next stage is an extension of dealing with life from the Positive Self’s perspective. This is how you deal with your illness. I wrote a book called A Healthy Way to Be Sick. In this book, you learn how to meet the challenges of dealing with an illness from your Positive Self. Instead of being defeated by your illness, you learn incredible life lessons. Being conscious in this stage can help you to live a quality life as you cope with your illness.
I have had multiple sclerosis since 1981 and though I haven’t healed my condition, I continue to learn lessons that bring me closer to fulfilling my life’s purpose. My illness has been a spiritual journey with creativity, deep love and inner peace. This happens as I deal with partial blindness, an inability to walk and sometimes even to stand. My pain level can reach level of 8 out of 10. I was in Hospice for three months and graduated because my declined slowed down.
As I dealt with my illness, I met a wonderful lady who became my wife. We are both handicapped and experience a true quality of love. That makes me think that a quality life doesn’t depend on the health of your body, it depends on your consciousness. Now to take that consciousness into the final stage; this is preparing to die.
I wrote books called The End, A Creative Way to Approach Death and A Poetic View of Hospice. I don’t think linear thinking can prepare you as well as being creative. Linear thinking is a left brain function and is often cut off from the rest of your brain. Creativity is a right brain function. It is connected to the right brain and the emotional part of the brain and bodily functions. You need your whole being to approach death, which involves your whole brain.
I chose to use poetry as my creative expression, but any creative approach can work. When I thought of an issue about my death, as I wrote a poem about it, I looked at it from different perspectives. I used imagery to capture my feelings and found associations to say what I meant through mental pictures, instead of logic.
I did the same thing when I was in Hospice. I always thought Hospice was reserved for the final stage of medical care, but poetry changed that for me. Hospice allowed me to take a close look at what I felt about dying. I felt it allowed me the ability to look at my approach, as though the medical profession acknowledged the way I felt. It was like looking at my approach through a microscope to see what I was thinking and feeling about dying. When Hospice ended, I felt being ready to die was feeling comfortable in silence, where I had no questions or comments. I felt complete.
I encourage readers to write your own creative approach to dying. When you do, you will shift from learning about my approach into manifesting your own. Each step in this venture will deepen how you literally feel. Your approach, when conscious, can take you right to the threshold of death. Creativity provides a cushion you can fall back on and an endless process until your last breath.
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